Merry Christmas to everyone 
This is the first Christmas, without my husband. I am very tearful and a bit low in my grieving alone.
He loved Christmas so much.
I wondered, i find it a bit weird. How the closer members of my family were with me, on the first day, of losing my husband.
And then after my husband’s funeral, all communication from my family is finished with me.
Dont see or hear from them again. I find it really strange behaviour. Was it for their personal gain, to show everyone, look what good i am doing helping out this new to be widow?
All does this come from a good heart.
Now that my husband has gone . ( my husband didn’t like my family very much).
I get invitations from my family for get togethers and special occasions.
Because i am very over sensitive. Do they think that i am over my husband’s death that soon?
Well i decline there invitations. I have no interest in going.
But my husband’s family, have been absolutely lovely and understanding, supportive.
Please let me know, if anybody else has this peculiar problem, with there family.
Or if anyone please could give me some information or help on this matter.
Love from grieving wife
Hello @LoveNeil ,
I’m really sorry to hear that you have not been feeling supported by your family and that you are finding Christmas is making you feel tearful and low. It sounds like things have been really difficult.
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Take good care,
Alex
I am experiencing the same. After the funeral of my lifetime partner, his family are now almost non existent in their contact . I am so saddened by this and know he would be devastated also. Promises broken so soon.
Their lives are moving on and I see all their social media comms. Whereas I am grieving and lonely . I wonder why this is??
Hiii yes i totally understand after loosing the love of my life on fathers day 2024 EVERYONE IS THERE IN THE BEGINNING & then they disappear and just live their lives not thinking of the aftermath of it all until they experience the same grief it’s certainly not easy but all you can do is pray for them and take care of yourself be gentle to yourself but keep god first always and keep in touch with the people that are still by your side because those are the ones that truly love you and thats what you need in your life good people only and just spoil yourself alot more but alot of praying and gospel music and just being around happiness is whats helping me also know that my love didnt like when i was depress or sad helps alot also he loved to see me happy also keep all the great memories in your mind and heart and just know we will all reunite someday i hope this makes you feel better just be easy one day at a time remember
I am going through the same situation as to after the funeral and I may as well be on the moon and if I do speak to them they are all saying how strong I am and coping very well with this horrible life I am left with
Thats the sweetish thing, i have heard so far, that you said to me.
It really hit my soul. Its so true what you said. Can i say, i am so sorry about your lost.
Since my husband went to God last summer. I feel this almighty force, protecting me and comforting me through my loss. The Catholic church has really looked after me. And my faith has become stronger.
And i know, i have to keep away from certain members of my family who are very ignorant and immature with very big egos.
Just because my husband has gone. Doesn’t mean i will be running in to their arms and worshipping them. And going back to my old self.
I still feel married to my husband in my heart. And i am very Loyal to him, to this day. And your right as well, i always put God first not my idolised family. And thats what they can’t get. But i do pray for there salvation, because thats important.
Thank you for responding back to me.
Bless you Sister in Christ. Joy and peace ,love to you. Keep strong
Sometimes, i think these guys have never had true love or experience it.
Maybe that might be the problem? I don’t know. I get that saying all the time . Stay strong, or time will heal or, in my case . But they dont explain the contents of the meaning of the word. Its like they found the saying from the hallmark card and memorized it. ( with no emotion).
Their are loving people out there who do care about you. ( which are Sometimes not family). But you look after yourself and put yourself first. It’s what your love one would want you to do. And keep your loved ones’ memories and never stop thinking about the good times. That helps me a lot. Take care, and God bless you with good health and joy, peace.
I am really sorry about your loss.
You know there are people in relationships that will never experience true love, like you had. So please take time out for yourself.
Don’t rest your mind on the loved ones that are not being helpful or caring to you. But think of the good memories of your husband. That’s what helps me a lot.
And their are lovely people who are willing to listen to you and help you
God bless you 
At my wifes funeral i realised that most if not all the people at the funeral apart from family were her friends first and mine second. And yes after the funeral i haven’t seen or heard from them.
I now speak to my girls two or three times a year, maybe physical contact twice a year but at family does never to just see me. But worst of all is they blocked me from my wife’s social media sites. So 20 odd years of personal memories have also been taken away from me.