Hi , I’m not very good at talking about my feelings so I thought I’d try this.
I lost my Mother 3 weeks ago very suddenly she was only 47. I’m struggling as I still don’t really know what Happened. I check my phone a lot to see if she has messaged, I keep waiting for someone to tell me it’s not really happening.
My mother had been through a lot in her short life. We lost my aunty, my mother’s youngest sister 15 years ago at the age of 25, and my grandad also the year before. I’ve always feared losing anyone else but I never thought it would be my mother.
It all seems like a terrible nightmare that’s never going to end and I don’t really know where to go from here. I have a baby boy that turns 1 next month his birthday is the day after my mothers I don’t know how I’m going to cope, but I’m trying to stay positive for him but I also find myself just wanting to be on my own. I feel terrible for distracting myself, as if I’m forgetting about her. I want time by myself just to let it all out but I’ve also got to be there for my son.
I went back to work after a week which I’m now thinking was a bad idea. I struggled the first week back I couldn’t stop crying and didn’t want to face anyone. i didn’t know what else to do apart from sit at home.
I’m so sorry for the loss of your mother, @Ash27. Sadly, you are not alone - many of our members have lost their mothers and will understand some of what you’re going through.
Your post reminded me of this one by @Cara_mia24 - they also have a baby and lost their mum. Maybe you can connect with each other?
Your loss is so recent, please do try to be gentle with yourself right now. I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support - I just wanted you to know that you have been heard.
I am in a same situation as you are but without a child and no one for support, hence joined here to get help and healing. Its only when people are in the similar boat, they realise the pain. I joined work and find it so hard to focus. They say time helps, lets hope so.
It’s tough isn’t it. I lost my mum 8 weeks ago, my father died in 2020. In many ways I was closer to my dad, but mum’s passing has hit me hard. I think because I was looking after her for 5 years, and we saw so much of each other, the fact now that I won’t see her anymore is really hard to comprehend.
The first 6 weeks were busy with all the paperwork and arrangements - I didn’t really start to reflect and then grieve until last week. I’m not crying so much, but all the emotions are there just under the surface, and I feel a lot of fear/anxiety, because I feel lost.
I’m lucky that I have a very supportive partner, but I don’t want to lean on him too much because his father passed away just before Christmas.
It’s early days I know, but I’m really hoping that I start to find my way again soon.
Hope you do too.
I lost my mum 8 weeks ago tomorrow and it just feels like yesterday. Nothing can prepare you for it. I went back to work after 3 weeks of her passing and feel that it was too soon, but im back now so just going through the motions to get through my working day.
Im so sorry for your loss x
Thank you for your kind words, and I’m sorry you’re in a similar situation. I certainly wasn’t prepared, and for some reason I didn’t think it would hit me as hard as it has.
You’re very brave going back to work so soon, only you know if it’s too soon - will they give you any more compassionate leave?
I do community volunteer work, and have only managed a few hours here and there in the past 8 weeks.
Take care of yourself xx
Hello
I’ve had all the leave i am entitled to. If i need more time I’ll go to my GP and get signed off, but im going through the motions. Im cryinga bit less but then sonething will trigger me off.