I lost my mum in May 2024. She was ill but it was a shock in many ways; we thought we had more time and had no warning that it would happen when it did.
I was 29 and she was 58. I feel like I’m at an ‘‘in between age’’ in my grief: too young for it to be ‘‘normal’’, too old for it to be tragic.
I know of people who’ve lost their parents as children/teens/early 20s, and obviously people who’ve lost parents in their 50s or 60s, but it feels like very few in their 20s or 30s.
I’d just like to hear from other people in a similar place to me, to know I’m not alone.
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I am so sorry. That is so young (it sounds it to me as I am that age, 58!) And so hard for you to adjust. I know it will hurt so much. I lost my mum this year and whilst she was 94, it still hurts so much. However I also lost my dad when I was 19, to cancer, and that was such a shock too. It’s 39 years now, and whilst the pain has subsided I still miss him and think of him very much.
Sending you all best wishes x
Hello @RomyMo ,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your mum. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
You may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Abi
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Hi RomyMo,
I too lost my Mum in my twenties, and then a couple of years later I lost my Dad.
I totally understand the ‘in between age’ feeling, it is so incredibly hard to lose your parents around this age as I feel like your twenties really are a time in your life when you become best friends with your parents. It’s a time in your life when you’re thinking about the future, trying to excel in your career, thinking of maybe starting a family etc and it’s heartbreaking knowing that your parent/s wont be there for those important milestones.
You’re not alone, I know it’s hard to feel like that sometimes, I don’t have anyone in my friend group who can relate to me even slightly and it kills me.
I’m here for you!
Hi there. Sorry to hear you lost your parents so close together. Thank you for your words and support, you’re so right especially regarding the milestones.
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Thank you for your words. I lost my mum to cancer, it’s so cruel. Sending my best wishes to you too.
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