I lost my mum 6th April 2020. It still feels unreal. Though she had been sick, I spoke to her barely 4hours before her passing. She lives in Nigeria, west Africa, and that call from my sister to say mum is dead was the most heartbreaking experience ever. For hours I didn’t know what to feel, I still dont think I do.
As per her request, she was buried the next day. I didn’t even get to say goodbye. I long so bad to go home and see her grave but the lockdown won’t allow that. It’s hard to accept that I’d never see her again.
Hi. I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your mum. I lost my mum on the 9th of January and although I’m very busy with my children and daily routines I still have moments of shock and find it hard to get my head around the fact she’s gone, and won’t see me or my children get any older. I just feel empty sometimes like here’s a big hole in my heart that will never be filled. I hope you find plenty of comfort in this site as I have. Take care
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You poor poor soul, I am so very sorry.
Blessings,
MaryL x
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Dear Ademed,
So sorry to read about the recent loss of your mum. Losing your mum is incredibly hard, and for you it is even harder because you could not be with her when she died and was buried, and you cannot go over there now to grieve with your sister and other family members. You wrote: “For hours I didn’t know what to feel, I still dont think I do.” Dont worry about that, I don’t think there is a right or a wrong way to feel, feelings just happen (or not) and they can change from one minute to the next. At the moment it must feel very unreal, but I am sure there will come a moment when it will feel very real. Two weeks ago I got a phone call to tell me that a dear friend who moved back to New Zealand with her family some years ago had died. We had been friends for 20 years, and it was such a shock. Normally I would have wanted to book a flight and go over there, but that is not possible. It was only a few days later when I read through all the messages that were posted on her husband’s Facebook page that I started to cry and feel the loss.
Know that you are not alone. You will find many people on this site who have gone through painful losses and are here to support each other. Be kind to yourself and take one day at a time. Post as often as you feel like it.
Jo
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