Hi there I’m 49 and lost my mum this week. I was her main carer and also worked full time. My dad passed 10 years ago. My dad’s passing was expected and he had even arranged all his own funeral. My mum who was 74 was unexpected. She was found on the floor at home by a district nurse. Police were called who contacted us.
I am the older of 2 daughters. My sister is distraught and I’m trying to stay strong. I’ve cried but feel immense anger at same time. I’m dealing with things on a day to day basis and doing what’s required but also feel so numb. I’m not even sure now what I want to say. I miss my mum so much but know she’s no longer suffering with the pain she was in but I’m so scared about what I’m expected to do ahead. Being the oldest my mum’s sisters have made it clear I am to sort everything.
Sorry if I’m rambling I just don’t know what to say my head is everywhere
Hello @SarahS75,
I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your mum that brings you here.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help right now.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
Another resource to get support is Losing a parent - coping with the death of a parent | Sue Ryder
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
Hi Sarah, I’m so sorry that’s really hard and when you weren’t expecting it the shock is just another dimension of the grief you’re going through.
My mum died in early March and it was a bit of a shock as she had been unwell for over a month but seemed to recover only to go back downhill and not be able to pull through. It’s so tough and when people say look after yourself you really do need to.
I was left with the arrangements too, it’s hard, do you have anyone who can help? Xx