Hi I am new to here.
My mum was told in Oct 2025 she may have esophageal cancer. She underwent an gastroscopy in Nov 2025 and it was confirmed she had stage 4 terminal esophageal cancer which has spread and the only thing they could do was palliative care. She was told she wouldn’t see Christmas and passed away on the 3rd of Dec. She was my whole world and I am really struggling to adapt to my life without her.
@Vickz Hello very sorry to read this.I post my mum too unexpected a few months ago and even now I don’t sense that’s I’m even beginning to grieve properly.
Such a turn of events regarding your dear mum and things must seem really dark right now and it must also be hard to even process all that’s just happened.
My heart goes out to you and it’s good you’re on a forum like this where you can express how you’re really feeling with many others who can relate to the dynamics of your situation as well as being able to identify with what you’re going through.
Hi Vickz, sending you a hug. My mum died in December from an aggressive cancer too (diagnosed in the summer). We were two peas in a pod. I’ve been finding it hard and destabisiling too, Christmas and New Years felt like a drag, and every day feels like moving through treacle. I’m still off work and am trying to not put pressure on myself to cope in a certain way or time, and just trusting that we’ll work it out eventually x
So sorry for you loss xx xx Thank you. They say the 1st are hard and I’ve had Christmas New Year and her birthday so just taking it one day at a time xx
So sorry cancer sucks it’s a horrid disease xxx Thanks a lot of people are telling me take it one day at a time xx I am struggling to enjoy things as you feel awful guilt xx Me and my mum were the same X x
Every time I enjoy something I want to immediately tell my mam about it and then it all hits home again. Its hard cos I think my mam would want me to be happy and keep living joyfully. Being happy doesn’t make the love any less, but i find it difficult to get my head around it all xx
That’s exactly how I feel to X X Anytime I did anything that made me happy I would tell her and now she’s not here xx Also we did loads of things together and now I feel strange doing them alone x