I dont really know how to put this into words.
My mum went into hospital just over 3 weeks ago, was told she had gallstones and she was put on iv antibiotics. She picked up considerably and i was putting things in place for her coming home. Sadly my mum passed away suddenly . I cant believe it and i feel so heartbroken. Her funeral was 2 days ago .
I am trying to support my dad who is so grief stricken .
My mum was 83 and my dad is 86. I am worried about dad continuing to live on his own. Today i cant seem to function i just want to be on my own . I dont know where to turn to i ache so badly .
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Hello @Beanie1393 ,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling heartbroken. I’m so sorry to hear about your mum. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
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I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad very suddenly in April, I understand how you feel. It didnt feel real to me until this last week, and its brutal - no other feeling like it. I find the only thing that gets me through is friends, family, and knowing that Dad wants me to be ok. I truly believe that our loved ones are still with us, and I talk to Dad every day. Sending so much love and strength to you 
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I lost my mum in June,it hurts so much. Here to chat if you want to - so sorry for your loss
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Thank you for the replies.
Im seaking out some help and advice again. As i said earlier my mum died on the 11th August.
My dad took a heart attack on the 30th of August . He was very unwell and also took pneumonia when in hospital and when in hospital suddenly cannot pass urine . He has got home from hospital on tuesday and is very frail. Having lost over a stone in a few weeks . He has come to stay with me and my husband . I am doing all the care for him . And i am now finding im lost . Lost in grief for my mum and now caring for my dad. My life has completely changed . I work full time but i have been off work since mum died i dont know how im going to get back . I had to cancel my holiday and i feel im getting more depressed each day.
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I can only tell you what’s helped me and continues to help me - walking it’s my peace x
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