I lost my mum 22 Aug 2024 and cannot cope. She was my world, my best friend. How do people get through this. Everyone says time will heel, but I don’t want it to, I just want her back! I can’t compute what has happened.
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I just wanted to say you are not alone. I lost my Mum on the 14th August 2024 and it is the most horrific pain I have ever experienced. The knowing that there is nothing I can do to bring her back overwhelms me. I cant even think of any nice memories of her as at the moment all I keep doing is going over the last few weeks of her life when she was ill and what I did and didnt do or say, the guilt is weighing heavy on me. And like you I still cant actually believe she has gone a lot of the time, I think we need to be patient with ourselves, let us feel everything as it comes however hard that may be and seek support when we need it 
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@Pip18 and @DB2015 sorry for your loss I lost my mom the day before her birthday on the 13th of August 2024. She spent her final 4 weeks in hospital until she eventually passed away from cancer. She was in terrible pain and everyday I went to see her she had deteriorated a little bit more. The only thing that gives me comfort now is that she’s no longer in pain and can sleep peacefully. She was my best friend and I just miss her so much. Her funeral was 2 days ago and I think now that’s over everyone seems to think I should be back to normal but they just don’t understand x
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If I could I would join my mum and it’s 13 months for me. Who ever walks into your life and walks out, you will never have the same bond with them as you did your mum. Just it doesn’t last as we all age so things deteriate. But I don’t have the answers and guess we just have to suffer in silence.
11th August this year for me. Its devastating. We all have unique feelings for our mums but in someway know how eachother feel. More so with the similar time frames. I feel like everyone is forgetting im grieving, expecting me to be normal. I miss her so so much. It physically hurts. I feel as though i am not even having time to think her about properly anymore, even though i think about her all the time, & it hits me she isnt coming back. 
You had a special bond with your mum, you don’t get that with everyone. I realized this and I tend to pull away from people like that as it feels like they are trying to control you into what they are. I always wanted to be me but sometimes this isn’t except able to others. So I put space between me and them, till they go through the loss then they can’t know how you feel. The only down side is we just end up becoming more isolated and lonely in our lives.
Yes im seeing distance, some me to protect myself emotionally & some them. Its the invisible eye rolls (oh your still sad about your mum?) It is definitely something people cant comprehend unless they have experienced it - we cant even comprehend the enormity of our loss , so how can they?
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It dawn’s on us eventuality. I think for me it brought all the memories to the surface from a child to later on in life. We don’t want to deal with death, when they are alive. When we left alone with it then it comes flooding back wave after wave, what we truly lossed.
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