Losing my. Nanna

Losing a grandparent
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I lost my nanna in September and to be honest she was more of a mum to me than my mum as I lived with my nanna and grandad (passed away 5 years ago) for 3 years and she was always there when I needed to talk but I feel I have no one to talk to as family just so it gets better and you will be alright. I have put myself Into my job as it keeps me occupied but think I am ready to have a burnout not sure what to do. Don’t really want medication just feel alone

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Hello @Michelle5,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your nanna and grandad. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,

Alex

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Hi Michelle,

I’m so sorry for your losses, I feel that our situations are very similar (hope you don’t mind me saying that) I lived with my nanna and grandad from 6 months old no relationship with any of my parents and my nanna and grandad raised me as their own.
Lost my nanna to a heart attack 5 years ago and my grandad passed just last month.

I know what you mean when you say you don’t have anyone to talk to, I think Grief makes us feel very isolated, I know myself that if people ask if I’m okay I know that I’m not but I tell them I am. I think this is because I don’t want to burden them with the sadness I’m feeling myself. I’m not sure if that’s what it’s like for you too.

If you need to talk I am here, I know we don’t know each other but I’ve found that talking to complete strangers can allow you to unload what we keep bottles up because there isn’t any judgement.

Feel free to get in touch with me x

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Thank you for your message, I feel that when my grandad passed 5 years ago I really don’t grieve as put all my attention onto looking after my nanna, so now I have lost both of thrm feel like I am grieving for two people.

My mum is here but I have always felt like I wasn’t really wanted as all attention was on my sister that’s why my nanna was so important because she made me feel wanted and loved.

My. Nanna did say to me when my grandad passed and this quote stays
with me always and it is

“you are a strong women but don’t be strong all the time” so I am trying to deal with emotions but behind closed doors but here your story makes me feel thst I am alone and there are people who will listen

Thank you

Michelle

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