Losing my nanny

Why do people expect you to just be ok!? Like after the funeral that’s it,your grieving is done. When in reality that’s when it starts as that’s when you have chance to start thinking,that’s when people back away etc. Every day feels harder than the last but you’ve got to keep up appearances. People say it’s ok not to be ok but it’s actually not,if you tell someone “no I’m not ok” they fall over themselves

People don’t always know how to act or what to say, because grief is different for us all you may even find people who have suffered a loss may say or do things that don’t seem helpful. I tell people I’m not ok,but I’m trying to be, or sometimes a shrug of the shoulders (:woman_shrugging:t2:) I don’t pretend or feel any pressure to keep up any appearances and it must be awful for you feeling like you have to. You’ve found a group of people who will understand on here, and if you feel like sharing there’s lots of care and compassion shown x