Losing my nearest and dearest

I lost my Nan, but she was more like my best friend. After losing my mom so young, she has been a motherly figure to me since then. We did everything together. I had an operation in November which meant I wasn’t seeing her as often and I was looking forward to being on the mend to return to normality but she passed away during my recovery period. I am off work until February and I am so worried about going back and having to accept the “new normal” and a life without her in it.


Dear @Fitzgerl

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your Nan. I can see that you are new to the Community, I hope you find the Community to be of support and of comfort to you.

It is understandable that you are feeling the way you are with returning to work, all of which is normal and part of the grieving process. Grief is a journey to be taken one day at a time, it is not a race and there will be good days and bad days as it is a rollercoaster ride of emotions. Everyone’s bereavement journey is different.

I am sure someone will be along to offer their support who has been in a similar situation as yourself. You can connect with members on here by typing in the search bar Loss of Nan. The support is amazing.

In the meantime I would like to share a few resources with you that may be of help and support to you at this time.

  • self-help platform which has information to help you understand and cope with your bereavement and grief along with resources and advice to help you through your grief called Grief Guide . When you are ready and feel up to it, it would be worth taking a look
  • Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
  • Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through

I do hope you are making a speedy recovery. When you do return to work, speak to your managers and let them know how you are feeling and how they can support you.

Thank you for bravely reaching out, it is not always easy to do this, you are not alone, we are all here to support you.

Take care.