Hi
I have just join the group I lost my partner last year in November it feels like yesterday . He had lung cancer stage 4 it’s been a journey but I will do it all over again just to see him again. We have two beautiful kids a girl and a boy age 10 and 14. It is hard to be the strong one constantly I think I haven’t have the opportunity to grieve as yet
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I know were your coming from if only we can be with them again I’ve said that to myself a few times.
But i would not like the pain and suffering they had to endure, i lost my sister in September and my wife four days later.
Being strong is hard to take, but you know
your children need a strong mum.
I’ve found on here being a place where you can offload some of your hurt and get strength from others.
Take care best wishes for you all.
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Im so sorry for your loss, I lost my beloved husband on 23rd November 2024 to cancer too.(I had 4 weeks with him from the diagnosis). He had just turned 50.
I wish I could see my husband too even just for a minute. We had just celebrated our 22nd wedding anniversary on 19th October, now im just existing not living waiting for the day when I can be with him. He was my life and my soul mate. Our plans and dreams for the future are gone.
You will grieve when you’re ready and in your own time.
Being on here helps me every day to get it out.
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My husband passed on the 26 November 2024 and he turned 50 on the 29 July 2024 he was diagnosed on his birthday I will never forget that day I kept my tears inside and only turned to hope and faith that he would over come this but God had other plans for him December the 8th 2024 was my son first birthday with out his dad we had our first Christmas after that our first new year and recently 14 th February was our first anniversary with out each other it’s feels so all too much one ofter the other like I don’t get the chance to breathe it’s been very overwhelming and lots of different emotions each day I tried to push the pain deep inside back and keep up a strong woman for kids but I’m broken
Thank you
Hi Alley
Lost my wife on Jan 6th this year. She spent her birthday (22nd December), Christmas and New Year on a ventilator as she fought hard for life. I am dreading the firsts of everything this year.
It would have been our 20th Wedding Anniversary on 19th March, and i am flying to Scotland to stay with my brother, as i do not want to be at home with all my thoughts on my own.
It is so hard, and i can’t even begin to tell anyone what i am going through, because honestly, how can you describe this pain to anyone, unless they have experienced it themselves
I hope that you ard able to grieve, and eventually move on. It is truly devastating, but we have to find a way, i suppose.
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Hello alley.
I lost my partner nearly 7weeks ago. Some days I’m functioning really well past few I’ve been a mess. I smile and carry on. You will grieve when you can love. Take care xx
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Hi @Alley - bloody horrible isnt it? I lost my wife on 16th December, after she’d been in hospital 8 weeks following an accident. My days have gone from terrible howling grief, to a good day now which is mostly emptiness, with a couple of ambush moments. If I’m honest, I’m existing - during the day, I can fill my head with work, but I find the evenings hard and joyless, I just miss her so much.
This forum is helpful, I find it reassuring that others are going through the same pain, and I’m not losing my mind.
Take care, and maybe some comfort from the people on here who understand. X
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Hi J
I know it’s hard but you will survive once you’re been through the first one all the others become a little bit bearable (the first of everything) just keep the memories alive all the best
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Ive had the first xmas, new year and birthday and valentines days.
Next one is Mark’s birthday in June which would of been his 51st.
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I think you’re all so brave. I got through Valentine’s day. How? I don’t know. We never made a big thing about it but he always got me a card. I went to bed early and pretending it didn’t happen. X
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3months in now.to losing my wife…The evenings are definitely the worse.walking the dogs in the day.going to a shop.not needing anything but just to get out…wudve been 25th anniversary end of this month…certainly not looking fwd to the summer and lighter nights coz theyr just going to seem even longer.iv joined a bereavement group but not actually had a meeting yet
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@Eddie777
Yes the nights are worse. I moved into the spare room because I couldn’t sleep started having panic and palpertations. I’ve joined a group. I think it would be helpful for you as well.
It seemed odd talking to strangers but within a few minutes it became easy because we was all there for the same reason. Good luck. Xx
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I haven’t been sleeping probably since the passing of my husband it’s almost three months I think I’m still in the routine of being up when his breathing got bad and we would play block buster on the phone to keep his mind of the pain I’m still planning it every night before I go to bed. The nights is definitely the worse
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Tonight I really miss him I have this pain on my chest and it hurts and tears just won’t stop coming it happens when the kids are sleeping and I’m alone awake it feels like someone is putting pressure on my chest I don’t know how to deal with this pain its like I cannot breath
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@Alley
I so understand. It’s something I’ve suffered with. Even though my partner was I’ll in bed it was the fact that he was there. And I reckon this feeling we get is our mind and body realising that they have gone. But our heart the strongest part of our body argues back. No it’s not real. It’s a dream. But unfortunately for all of us it isn’t. I would give my life for just 5 more minutes. But then wouldn’t we all love
My thoughts are with you. Xx
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