I lost my wonderful partner a week before xmas.
We had been together 6 years and he passed away a day after our anniversary.
We got engaged on 9th Nov and were so so happy. Hadnt spent a night apart in 6 years.
I feel numb and cheated.
I went out yesterday and had a panic attack and had to come home.
I feel so lost and alone even though i have an amazing family and group of friends
I just dont know how to move forward 
Sending you thoughts and prayer
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Good morning
Very sorry for your loss.
Take things one day at a time.
Don’t be harsh on yourself.
Grieving is a personal journey.
No right or wrong way.
Let the tears flow.
Don’t stop them.
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So sorry for your loss. Try to be kind to yourself . Not easy. I lost my husband 12 weeks ago so I do understand xx
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I understand how you feel, i lost my beloved husband on 23rd November to cancer, i miss him everyday and struggling without him, the tears haven’t stopped since he went
I lost my wife if 46 years some 6 weeks ago. I e been devastated too. It’s a horrible journey that we go through. There is no right or wrong way of dealing with this type of grief. I talk to her every morning and make her a cup of tea still. I also say goodnight to her too and give her a kiss. Every single one of us will endure a loss at some point in our lives and it’s truly very hard to accept, I still can’t accept it yet. It’s new and raw and I’ve got a wonderful famil around me. Talking about it and keeping busy does help take the edge away, but you only have to see something that belongs to them or you remember seeing something that reminds you of what you did together and the grief floods back again. Time, talking and family togetherness will help you through all of this, but try and be kind to yourself too, remember when you feel like your being selfish or that you think your disrespecting a partner by doing something different, ask yourself this, what would they say to you! Bless you and look after yourself too.
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I have just joined here. I lost my husband of 40 years on Christmas Eve and I’m not sure I’ve actually accepted that he has gone. We had been together since we were 18.
We haven’t had the funeral yet because everything was slowed down by the holidays.
I totally understand the feeling of being lost. My Son has stayed with me since his Dad passed but he will be returning to Norway after the funeral and I think that’s when it will really hit me hard. I wish I could offer you better advice but I’m here if you need to talk.
Take time out to be kind to yourself.
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I know how you feel to a degree, we will always have a subtle difference in our feelings, but the grief can be overwhelming at times. I cry and I’m now living In a house we shared for 41 years, so all of those memories are here every day. It’s perfectly normal to feel alone, but I’ve found that by keeping busy and getting on with the things I did before she passed away is helping. All her things are still here and I’ve no plans to deal with them as yet because it’s just too raw still. My family live a couple of hours away and my son has cancer, so it’s been very emotional for me, just before my wife died I broke my leg very badly and had surgery to plate and pin it, so it’s been very hard. Hang in there and keep busy. My best wishes
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@Brisi, I can’t seem to sit still for more than a few minutes before needing to find something to do, however irrelevant or trivial. If I stop too long I start to think and then cry. Thankfully we moved in our new home 12 months before he died, we always wanted to live by the sea and once we knew his illness was terminal we sold up and bought our bungalow. I would never have coped in our old house, we basically renovated it from scratch and poured our hearts and souls in to it….too many memories there, both good and bad. I hope you find the strength you need to find something good in each day, I know I’m struggling with this and can’t see a future at the moment without him in it.
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It’s hard isn’t it. You feel alone even though family and friends are there, you just don’t want to bother them. Enjoy your memories of you both together, I enjoy thinking of her everyday and. Ever stop talking to her.
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Thank you, it’s comforting to know I’m not alone in how I’m feeling right now x
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