Hi I lost my son 8 weeks ago it was so sudden he was 31 after waiting weeks for the results he had ischimic heart disease I’ve been struggling on and off I’ve only just started to go out the house little bits at a time not sure when I should start thinking bout going back to work me and my son worked at the same place any advice would be grateful
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Hello Bonita
I can see that you’re new to the community. I am so sorry to hear about your son. I hope you find the community a good support.
You say you are struggling right now. I wanted to share some more sources of support that might help you right now.
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Child Bereavement UK support families with the loss of a child. They also support bereaved children. You can call their helpline on 0800 02 888 40.
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The Compassionate Friends support families who have lost a child of any age. They have a grief companion scheme where you can get 1-1 support from another bereaved parent. You can call them on 0345 123 2304.
Sue Ryder also has some resources which can help you cope with grief.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Naoise
Very sorry you’ve lost your son, I too lost my eldest son in November, he was 40. We waited 16 weeks to be told he had ischaemic heart disease.
It’s 30 weeks today since we had the terrible news that he’d been found.
I can’t advise on work as I don’t work but I have thought how useless I’d have been if I was still there as I’m so unpredictable with my mood and tears.
I wonder whether you can return part time or if there is any flexibility ?
Perhaps working again will help in some way ?
I think that everyone copes differently and you have to do what feels right for you !
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Thank you just finding things hard at the moment I know it’s still early days
I completely understand, I still have days where I can’t be bothered to do anything. I still cry at the drop of a hat.
I believe that it will always be like this, you just learn to live differently.
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Bonita. I too lost my son suddenly on his sleep on 6th April. Matthew was only 27 years old. We have to wait for 6 months for the result of the post mortem. I struggle everyday and cry everyday and have panic attacks everyday and hope everyday that this is not my reality. But it is and I do not know how to cope. Hopefully some strength will come to us all on here. 
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Hi, saying sorry is not enough I know as it’s the most traumatic shock to lose a child.
It’s just gone 30 weeks since I lost my eldest. It is true that it gets a little bit easier.
Not all the time and not every day but some days are more ‘normal’. I still wake every day and think of Ben, I still think about him every day and before I go to sleep. I think I’ve come to terms with knowing he’s not here but not with where he is now if that makes sense.
The road is definitely difficult and long, and no one’s is the same. I hope you eventually find some peace and begin to cope. Sending you a hug
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Hi it’s 9 weeks since lost my son it was so sudden no warning one minute he’s here laughing and joking went to see his friend and next minute he’s gone every day has been a struggle I know it’s still raw but how long is to long to even think bout going back to work x
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My son’s death was also without warning.
It’s just unbelievable and shocking.
I’m not working so I haven’t had that extra thing to worry about.
I do know I would have been pretty useless and unpredictable 
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I don’t think there is an appropriate time to go back - you’ve got to do what you think is ok for you …
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