This is the first time im writing about my husband of 35 years, who passed away in March of this year, 2026, I miss him so very much, I don’t know what to do, im lonely, my kids have already moved out long ago, im lonely, but I’ll feel lonely even in a crowded room. I feel lost, we did everything together, nothing seems to matter anymore 
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Hi lightmary, I am so sorry to hear about your husband. When my wife died four months ago the pain was unbearable and although pain has mellowed a feeling of unquenchable loneliness is often present. Have you looked into any bereavement groups in your area, I’ve looked online there do seem to be some options at local churches and hospices. It often helps to make friends with people going through the same situation as it’s easier to talk to people who understand. This site is also very good as it lets you speak your mind knowing everyone understands. I hope you find some solace soon
Wishing you all the best
Tom 
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I am sorry for your loss , my husband passed away 7 months ago suddenly heart attack. The first few months were horrible and a bit of a blur. Whist the pain has lessened, I do get lonely. There is only me and my dog who is great company . My son and daughter in law are a great support. Due to their work and family commitments I only see them once a week. My daughter lives in York so don’t see much of her . I have found the only people who understand are people only the same journey as me . Bereavement cafes are good place to go as they will understand what you are going through. Look after yourself
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Thank you for reaching out, I have many friends who mean well, but they don’t understand what im going through, everything reminds me of him, even going to the grocery store, I just start crying, I don’t want to go anywhere cause I’ll want to see him there. We both loved going to antique stores and swap meets, now I don’t think I can go anymore. My heart and spirit are broken 
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Hi Lucy, I think it is quite normal for you to feel devastated it is very recent for you. When my wife died I spent most of my time walking which I found helpful as it seemed easier to be outside in nature than at home. It also made me tired which helped with sleeping which is often an issue.
Wishing you all the best
Tom
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Thank you Tom, I use to walk all the time, but as my husband got more sick I stayed with him all the time, and I do have trouble falling asleep, and how I wish I could dream about him. I keep looking at our photos, yearning for those good times. I’m a mess,
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I still have his phone, and I still send him messages. I guess I’ll hafta shut off his phone eventually.
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Hi Lucy, I still have my wife’s phone as well.
All the best
Tom
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Hi there
I still have my darling husband’s phone, I send him messages and I send messages back to me from his phone. That might sound daft to some people but it gives me comfort. I just can’t part with it yet. Today I looked at some photos of him and had to stop, my gorgeous kind husband’s face just brought on the tears… it’s been 6 months and he suffered a lot as he had pancreatic cancer. Gone in just 6 weeks after being ill for the previous 2 months.
I’m very sorry for your loss, it’s a tough road to be on and I hope you have support around you. Please keep posting here, someone will always answer with kind words.
Take good care x
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Hello, yes I thought i was a bit crazy sending messages to my husband but it did give me some comfort, praying that in some way he could see my messages, I also look at the photos on his phone, and I send them to my phone, I just look at pictures all day. I saw one of him when he was younger, my was he gorgeous 
, but even as he was getting sicker., and was losing so much weight he was still my beautiful husband.
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Hi Lucy, I spent the first few day after my wife died down loading every voice message on WhatsApp to make sure I had records of her voice as I have so few videos. Lots of photos but never enough.
Wishing you all the best
Tom
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I found a video of my husband signing karaoke with his brother. On his phone. I didn’t even know he had that , finding that was so precious to me, hearing his voice again, it brought tears to my eyes.
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Hi, this is my first time posting a message. My husband passed away in October 2025 from Pancreatic Cancer. I cry everyday day and feel so lonely. Miss Paul every day.
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Hi Millymob, I am so sorry to hear about your husband. My wife died on Christmas day after two years of cancer treatments. There are so many people on this site who have gone through this horrible journey. I hope you find some solace being able to chat knowing that everyone understands you.
Wishing you all the best
Tom
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Millymob
I’m so sorry for your loss. My lovely husband passed away last October too, from pancreatic cancer. The speed at which it took him was so frightening. We had no chance to talk about anything, and he just couldn’t discuss his diagnosis with me. He started feeling unwell in early July, in and out of the Dr’s who just gave him antibiotics. After the 3rd A&E visit, and a fractured rib, they finally took blood and did a scan where they saw the cancer was in multiple places. He turned 60 in hospital on 5th Oct and passed away 12 days later.
Like you my heart is shattered and broken. I just miss him so much and weekends are truly awful. Today I’ve cried a lot, but I cry every day as I feel so alone in this.
This site has been so helpful, everyone here knows the pain and heartache of loss.
Take good care, thinking of you x
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I am so sorry for your loss , and you’re on the emotional roller coaster of grief. There are many surportive people on this website.I hope you have got some family support . Look after yourself
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I am so, so sorry for your loss, Millymob. My husband passed from liposarcoma cancer on Easter Saturday, so I have some idea of the agony you must be going through. Please continue to post on here. There are many compassionate people here who have also lost loved ones. I too cry every day but manage to keep it inside for most of the time. I find bereavement support lines helpful and keep my tears for the times I am in touch with them. I feel that if I allowed myself to cry when I am alone, I might go mad with grief.
Hello millymob, so sorry to hear what you are going through, I have no words of comfort for i myself am grieving, my husband died in March, he suffered from kidney failure, dialysis, a botched kidney transplant, for the 3 years since his transplant, he was never ok, always one thing after another, too much detail to go into, but he ended up in the hospital with pneumonia, was septic. Went into a coma, he passed away 3 weeks later, . I feel angry, sad, confused and alone, I cry every day, im grateful for this website, where I can vent, and you guys understand. May God bless each and every one of you, I have great faith in our Lord God, hopefully you guys won’t mind me praying for you all
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Hi Lucy, I’m sorry to hear that you are suffering so much. I hope you find a little peace.
Wishing you all the best for your day
Tom
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