Losing my wife

I lost the love of my life 8 months ago to cancer which was a vey short illness we all didn’t know how bad the leukemia was 5 weeks and she was gone it has left a massive hole in our family she was a loving wife a loved mother and grandmother we miss her so much . Some days i feel ok keeping busy at work and spending time with my family and grandchildren then it hits you so hard you can’t control your emotions

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Welcome @Macgill and sorry for your loss. It has been 18 weeks since I lost my husband to cancer. He was also a wonderful dad & grandad and he is missed so much. It must be a terrible shock for you and your family how quickly your wife was taken. We at least knew my husband was ill for a few years although, we thought he was going to be cured. This forum has been a huge help to me and hopefully will be to you too. Take care.

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Hi @Macgill welcome to here, as Jan17 says its a good place to read and reflect, join in a chat and all with people who will understand where you are coming from and where you are going. My wife passed 9 months ago so we would be at similar places I imagine, although I find things a bit easier than those early days it’s still hard work and arelentless task to keep things on an even keel. I found using this site has helped me get a handle on what’s going on with me emotionally, there are so many experiences on here but the over riding theme seem to be that we all journey along individually but all agree that there’s no rule book and it helps to talk to others who share the experience of the new normal we’re all in. Keep reaching out or reading, it can help in the long run.

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Thankyou for your kind message i am new here its comforting

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Yes it never gets easier just try and live with loss .

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I have experienced loss in my life lost both my parents which was hard i was married for 30 years to my soulmate its hard to take

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@Macgill aye it’s not really the same is it? I had lost people before my wife but this is on a whole different level, a different world. I still want to tell her things and hear her reaction, I still talk to her and I know what she’d say but its hard to find solace in that.

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Yes it is hard to find solace everything is a constant reminder of the loss but with all the memories we shared as a family which will last forever she is by my side every day always

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