Last May my wife was diagnosed with breast cancer. Over the next six months she had chemotherapy. She sailed through it all. Only thing happened was she lost her hair. Her last chemo was 25th October and she was ready for her op. The cancer had all but disappeared, her surgeon could not even find the lump. On the 31st October she was admitted to hospital with a virus, she came home 13th November. She was re-admitted on the 17th November and while in this time they said she had covid (no symptoms) they told her it was ‘protocol’ that she had to have a certain medication. She came home on the 26th. I found her deceased in our bed on the 2nd December. She had just turned 47. They said sudden heart attack. We were together 23 years, married 9. I am lost without her. I keep trying to carry on doing normal things but nothing is normal now. At 51 i have to start building my life again. I dont know how.
Hi. Your story touched a nerve with me, it sounds so similar to mine. My wife had suffered from ill health for years due to complications from diabetes. She had a stroke at the beginning of November and was at home recovering however I found her in the kitchen on the 4th December, she’d had a cardiac arrest. She was 47 and I’ll be 51 in a couple of weeks. I knew we’d never grow old together, her health was never going to allow that but I thought we’d have more time together. I’ve lost my soul mate and my best friend, each day is torture. I’m trying to stay strong for our children but it’s so hard to keep going. I can’t imagine what my life is going to look like tomorrow let alone the future. Life is so cruel.
So sorry for your loss. My partner passed away on 2nd December 23 from Glioblastoma grade 4 inoperable. He had just turned 55. Diagnosed in September I never left his side and cared for him at home until he passed. My heart is broken, some days I don’t want to get out of bed but I’m just taking one day at a time x
@Sonofdel51 I am sorry for you and all that answered you . It is the most terrible thing to lose a long term partner . Know one knows how painful it is but us on here . I can’t think far into the future it scares me . Be kind to yourself and it’s best to talk about it
My heart goes out to you ,i lost my husband to lung cancer 6 months ago ,i hate waking up on a morning and going to bed on a night ,all we can do is keep getting up and try to get through each day ,each hour of every day ,it is all so very new for you and you will probably feel like its a dream that you just want to wake up from ,i hope you have a loving family to help you through, i have now joined a bereavement support group and it is helping me ,god bless you ,sending hugs .
Life is so cruel. I’m also trying to come to terms with the loss of my husband and soul mate I’m not sure I ever will. My heart is broken and I’m trying so hard to keep going for my children. He was 50 and I’m 48 and he had a cardiac arrest at home 2 days after coming from hospital after a heart bypass. It breaks me to think he went through all that only for him to pass away a week later. I’m so anxious about how we’re all going to get through the funeral it makes me feel physically sick it just shouldn’t be happening. All I try and do is take each day as it comes and not look too far ahead into the future as it’s more than I can cope with. It helps knowing there are other people sadly going through the same devastating heart break makes me feel less alone although my heart breaks for everyone else too. It’s the worst pain imaginable and only those who have gone through it can truly understand. Keeping reaching out on here and know you’re not alone. Sending love and strength to everyone struggling xxxx
Bless you love ,you will find the stregnth to get through thr funeral ,i too cant look too far ahead ,i have to take one day at a time ,even one hour at a time ,it does make you wonder how our body can endure all this pain ,but it does ,and you are right in saying that knowing you are not alone in this horrendous journey does help ,i have found bereavement support helps me ,it may not be for everyone but it is certainly helping me ,just remember there is no set pattern to greiving ,we all greive in our own way and our own pace ,sending you hugs x
Thank you so much I might look into a bereavement support group I think that may help me too. I’m going to meet a friend of a friend this morning who lost her husband in her early 40s and hopefully she can give me some coping mechanisms too. I really wish no one had to walk this path it’s truly awful far worse than I could ever have imagined 
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Good for you love ,im sure she will be a great help to you ,i meet a lady who i met on here every week for a coffee ,she also happens to be in the same bereavement support ,group she has been a god send to me ,i wish you all the very best with your friend x