I’m new to this. I lost my wife just over a week ago and finding it very hard to process.I do have a lot of support from family and friends so quite lucky in that way. But I feel like I’m in a big black hole as low as I can possibly be and can’t see a way out.Never experienced anything like losing a partner before…Can’t settle anywhere and don’t know what to do with myself.
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@MS1963 i am sorry for your loss and understand how you are feeling. I lost my husband of 52 years in July just seven weeks after his diagnosis. It is hard to comprehend life without them you will find a lot of support here.
Thankyou for talking to me. She only was 56 and I wasn’t with her. Wasn’t expected and just can’t process it .
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So sorry. I lost my husband to a sudden cardiac arrest 14 weeks ago. Everyone here knows your pain, lots of support. It really is an awful shock.
Sending love, hugs and strength.
Xx
Thank you . I’m sorry for your loss too. My wifes was a heart issue but had no idea was a problem x
Same here. He seemed fit and well, no cardiac history. Never smoked, didn’t drink, not overweight.
We were in bed, he was asleep. I did CPR until help arrived. They put him in a coma, he never woke up. I had to agree to machines being turned off. He technically lived another 6 days after life support discontinued. But he was breathing, nothing else. It was the withdrawal of feeding and fluids that ended his life. It was horrible.
Now, I have to live with that, and without him.
There is nothing we can do about it, can’t change the past unfortunately.
Just have to keep putting one foot in front of the other. Take one hour at a time and don’t think too far into the future.
Sending you strength and hugs. Xx
So sorry… Just doesn’t feel like I will ever get out of this black hole at the moment.Cant work although I will need to go back at some point soon and have no interest in anything. I know it’s early still though. I didn’t have any kids with her but my kids have been so good and I have a very good mate who is helping me too.
Pleased you have some support. We didn’t have kids together either, but I have a son and daughter from my first marriage, and I am so privileged to be their mum. I have been widowed twice now, both to sudden cardiac arrests.
Life sucks. Xx
Ohh so sorry to hear that. Thankyou for talking to me xx
Hi it’s my first time posting I lost my wife 15 months ago although it still feels like yesterday I don’t know what do with myself I feel like I’m falling apart I’m trying to stay strong for our boys but it’s hard it wasn’t expected and she was only 45 years old I feel lost and alone my son’s don’t speak about her the mornings and the nights are the worse I just don’t know what to do with myself
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I am sorry for your loss, it is 2 months tomorrow since I lost my husband. You will find lots of support here. You can talk about your wife we all understand what you are going through.
I know exactly how you are feeling. I only lost mine 2 weeks ago. I have a lot of support but atj the moment feels lost wherever I go can’t settle anywhere. She was only 56 . Just feel like I will never get out of this black hole I feel I’m I’m.
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Hi Tipsy/
So sorry for your loss. I lost my wife 5 weeks ago she was 44 and like you unexpected and the morning and nights are horrible it is odd because we both worked not having her here in the day isn’t so bad almost normal other than the desire to send a message or ask what she wanted for dinner. Like yourself I have to keep going for my kids and just survive even though I regularly question what the point is and then the anger and guilt hit.