My dad died in August after being terminally ill. I’m still trying to get my head around it. I’ve only cried about 4 times and am just going through the motions. I’ve now found out my mum has cancer and she doesnt want any treatment. She’s still processing the loss of dad. I feel miserable and just want the world to stop. Life carries on and thats what Im struggling with.
Hi @Poppy50 ,
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I just wanted to say thank you for so bravely sharing this with us. Keep reaching out. 
Alex
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I’m so sorry to hear this. I went through the same. My dad died suddenly one Sunday blood clot to the heart, then six months to the day later mum collapsed turned out to be stage 4 cancer terminal with no treatment to be had. I can sympathise with how you are feeling like you I didn’t cry or have the chance to grieve dad which was hard as I was closer to him. All I knew was I had to sort the house the finances and not least sort and look after mum. I am an only child who was living with them. They were both so young. It was only after mum died the grief hit me and it hit me hard. It’s my second Xmas without them and I still want to cry once a day but it is better this year too. So my advice is try to grieve a bit now even though it’s hard give yourself the ok to do so. And if you need someone to sound off to you can message me anytime. You don’t have to be the strong one it’s ok just to be a mess sometimes xx
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Thank you. 
Thank you. So v sorry for your loss too.
Hi poppy, i can totally relate. I have recently lost both my parents within 13 days. How is your mum feeling now? Life can be so hard, but reaching out and speaking to others going through similar makes me feel not as lonely.
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I think she is in denial about her illness .
It can be so hard at first. My dad had cancer and he was exactly the same at first. When it came to being terminal he accepted it like the trooper he was. He was very against having any treatment but he finally gave in to us asking him. It didn’t actually do any good though 
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Sorry about your parents. That’s a lot to deal with in a short space of time.
Thanks hun, sorry to you about your dad and your mam being poorly.
Thanks. Today has been hard.
Probably because its Christmas soon and the first one without dad. He loved Christmas. When we were were kids he’d always be the first one up. Banging around in the kitchen trying to wake us all up because he was so excited! 
Iwant to do something special to remember him but dont know what. How are you doing today?
Awww hun, i can totally relate with xmas coming up. Its my birthday xmas eve and then xmas where my parents always came to mine so i’ve been feeling abit lost and up and down. First xmas and birthday without them. I ordered some eco friendly chinese lanterns from amazon that you write on so i am going to set some off with messages on xmas night. Think of all those memories and funny moments on xmas and if you have a spare seat think of it as your dad being there in spirit. He will be watching over you and he will want you to smile at the memories and stories of him. Big hugs.
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Aww that must be incredibly hard having your birthday xmas eve too. Its a lovely idea about the lanterns. I bought some flowers and lit a candle for dad. It brings me some comfort to do little things. All the best x
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Yeah it was a double whammy of loss. I love lighting a candle for my parents, great idea about the flowers too. Hope your xmas was ok, i had my moments with a few tears but was to be expected. Was just very quiet as i always had my parents over at mine for xmas x
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I lost both of my Parents within 9 months of each other.it was the first lock down ,my Mam went in hospital and died 26th March 2020. Then my Dad had a fall at Christmas of that year and ended up in hospital.he caught covid on the ward.and died on January 11th 2021. Was a.most traumatic time. We couldnt visit them, just look through a.hospital window to see them. Funerals were a nightmare. Only so many people allowed etc. Our only consolation is that they are back together again. They were.70 years married. So hard without them.
I then went on to lose my Husband the following year ,2022. To say it was the worst time of my life. Is an understatement.