Losing the woman I was in love with

It’s 18 months now, it’s true that there ups and downs. But the first thought is about her as soon as I wake up, and the last thought is about her.

My heart physically hurts some days and it feels like I’ve been punched in the chest. I’m very isolated and barely speak to anyone. Really doesn’t have anything left.


Hello @lonely_dad ,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are lost and hurting. I’m so sorry to hear about the love of your life, I can understand the pain you are experiencing grief can be an isolating and lonely journey. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.

You might also want to visit the following organisation as it may help you connect with others in your area experiencing loss. At a Loss helps people to find bereavement support close to home (if available) - Bereavement support organisations across the UK. They also have a number of helpful bereavement resources here: Helpful reading, websites and other resources for bereaved adults and children

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,


Good morning, I am so sorry to read your post, you will read many sad stories on these posts and i hope you will find some comfort when reading them. Sadly we are all here because we have lost a loved one and are trying to make a way to live a life we didn’t choose.
My husband died suddenly 8 weeks ago so I am very early in my grief and I feel exactly how you do. The pain in my heart is unbearable and there are days when I weep a lot. Please keep posting on here and you will get a lot of support. Thinking of you, sending love


I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m sure you’ve heard that a lot, but anyone who says it on here really means it, as we all know how unbearable the pain is. No advice from me, just post when you feel like it.


I think about my husband every single minute I try to do things but feel so guilty I want him here with me.