I lost my wife last year and still struggling to come to terms with it all. Is there anything people found to help them? I now looks after are 2 kids that are under 5 so limited with free time. Just feel so lonely all the time even though people keep telling me i have the kids to keep me going!
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Hi @England0795 I’m sorry for the loss of your wife, especially at such a young age.
I lost my 52 year old husband 3 months ago - he died in his sleep. I have one teenage son.
People always tell me that I need to think of my son. I know they mean well but they cannot understand the loneliness and disconnection we feel from the rest of the world. The person we crave comfort from is no longer next to us.
I’m sure you love your children but the relationship you had with your wife is different - it’s a love that you both chose, a connection you both made.
You’re doing what you can and it must be extremely difficult at times. After all, none of us choose to be without our partners, it’s a situation we’ve been forced into.
Warmest of hugs.
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England, I am so much further on in life, my children are in there 40s. My Darling wife left me in April 2024 What I am trying to do now is to rejoice in the years I had with my love rather than morn her loss all the time. I am probably further down this hard road than you. Adult social interaction is the best help especially with people who understand your loss. People who have not lost a long term partner just do not understand your loss. Here we all do, so come on here for a chat, rant at the world or just a ramble. I do and I find it helps. There are younger members on here hopefully one will come on and reply to you. Be kind to yourself and I know you are doing your best looking after those two children. You have a difficult job so just one step at a time and ask for help if you need it. Your GP / Doctor may be able to help if you are really struggling. When I am sad I try and remember some happy times, Grief goes in waves I hope that you are due an upturn soon.
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