My wife died suddenly June 2022. We have three daughters they were 11,9 and 6 years old. I’ve never really been able to talk to anyone who has any idea what this does to you, how it affects the rest of your life. All around me the world has moved on, forgotten, time has softened loss for most. Every day is a first new day without her, it is like a bad dream, really unbelievable and I’ll wake up in a minute and thank God it was just a dream. That has never happened. I grieve for my daughter’s loss of their mother, I grieve for my wife who has lost her life, her family, and lastly I grieve for my loss of the only woman I’ve ever loved and best friend I will ever have. I bring my daughters up on my own, I’m sad and lonely. I work in a job I do not enjoy, I lost my original job due to this. I have no time to do anything for me, I have no friends only elderly parents. If there’s anyone out there that can even begin to understand then I’d be grateful for response.
I understand how you feel, I lost my beloved husband on 23rd November 2024 to cancer, we had just celebrated our 22nd wedding anniversary on 19th October, 3 days later we found out he had cancer. I had 4 weeks from the diagnosis with him.( he was 50).
I miss him everyday and struggling without him and I haven’t stopped crying since.
Im not living anymore just existing, Our forever home is now empty and quiet, my life is empty now, everyday I ask why.
We were supposed to grow old together. I wake up every day thinking how much more can I take when all i want is to be with him, i miss hearing hey baby I love you or hey baby do you need a hug.
He was the one person I could tell anything to.
Hello Bear13
I think most of us on here understand mostly where you are coming from. I have had a whole range of emotions since my wife died on January 6 this year.
Unlike you, i now exist on my own. I have no-one else here when i get in from work, or when i am sat on my own, trying but failing badly to watch something on the tv.
I have no enthusiasm, just pain and angish.
I am sorry you appear to have no-one to speak to, but the people on this site are very understanding.
I don’t know where you live. I live in Hampshire. If you are close maybe we could meet at some time.
Unfortunately, we all get it on this site. I do think it’s hard when you have young children, it’s hard always but with kids added to the mix it’s difficult.
My partner died suddenly and unexpectedly, the shock and suddenness has been difficult. 2 years on I’m in a better place but there’s always bitter sweet moments.
I have found this site to be hugely beneficial and i have met some incredible people. Also there is a group on facebook called widowed and walking. There are people all over the country that post walks in their areas and everyone is welcome to join in.
Depending on your age, there is also WAY (widowed and young) and WAY UP.
They put various things on for you to take part in if you want to.
I hope you have some family and friends to help with your children as it is tough on your own, without the addition of grief.
Best wishes and keep reaching out. There are things for us out there, just need to reach out.
Bear13 we are all in the same boat on here but I have to say it is commendable if you are managing your grief, a job and looking after your 3 girls. Stay strong and well done x