Lost my wife six months ago……was doing fine then hit with the loss again. Deep sadness and loss
Hi, i know i am behind you on this path we walk together but alone. You are allowed to have bad days or weeks even months and years. At the moment each day is hard for me and my eating and drinking are shot. It is 10 weeks for me this Saturday. I have just managed a walk 30 minutes this morning, but to be honest i just felt numb. Got home had a shower put my i pod on shuffle and the second song it played was the last song i played her in hospital and the last song at the funeral. So the tears flow again. So just try and look after yourself, and remember one step.
Hi Vinny,
I’m sorry for your loss, at least you know you’re not alone in this wonderful community.
I’m 16 weeks down the line from loosing my wife to a heart attack. For the first few weeks I was numb with shock but, somehow, managed to function enough to deal with everything that needed to be done.
Now things have quietened down I have time to think which isn’t good for me. My despair is definitely getting worse.
People in this community have different methods of coping. Many set themselves daily tasks to distract from their grief but that doesn’t work for me, it just adds to the pressure.
I tend to deal with things as they arise. This morning the door bell wasn’t working, so I spent a distracted hour fixing it. Now I’m having a coffee and I certainly feel better than when I woke up. Hope it lasts.
I’m told by widowed friends and relatives that you never get over the loss of a husband or wife, but you learn to live with it.
It’s early days for us both. Just take it easy.
Hello @Vinny and others who have lost someone dear to them.
Welcome to a group that you didn’t want to be in. I lost my wife a little while back now and there’s no way of coping that’s better than any other, we just do what we can to get through the day.
I believe it’s plain obvious that we grieve the way we do as grieving is probably the hardest thing anyone has to do in their lifetime. Losing someone who was your world and then nothing, emptiness, well, it’s like nothing else.
People say be kind to yourself but I find that difficult. All I want is for her to be back.