I lost my dad 8 years ago at the age of 27. He had a heartattack and i never got to say goodbye properly.
Last wednesday my mum was taken into hospital with a brain bleed. The same day of my dad’s anniverary. We had to make the difficult decsion to switch.off her life support the following day. I am 35 and now have lost both parents without being able to say goodbye. How do you even begin to heal from this. Is anyone in the same position?
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Losing both parents suddenly like that is so traumatic. Your post resonated with me because my situation is similar in that I lost my dad suddenly when I was 27, and my mum died in April this year. Although she was getting more and more ill over a period of weeks, she passed away unexpectedly in hospital when I had spent the day before chatting and just spending time with her. The next day she dramatically declined and I had not expected that, I thought she would get better and come home. So I didn’t properly get to say goodbye either. It’s so painful isn’t it.
I’m in my early 40s without parents and I have a baby daughter too which is keeping me going but I’m also devastated to lose my mum as we were so close and she is missing out on seeing my little girl. You are not alone, I sometimes feel that I am as none of my friends have lost a single parent which sometimes makes me resentful. Happy to chat more, just DM me.
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Hi.
My dad died 25 years ago in bed aged 53 of a massive heart attack. I was 27.
4 years ago my mum aged 74 had a major bleed on the brain and died the same day. This was on their 50th wedding anniversary.
The reason im writing to you is to highlight the similarities in our story and to show you that you will heal from this.
I think of mum in particular all day and miss her terribly. Im often reduced to tears when i do.
But the extreme grief does fade and life gets better. It took a long time though. I was a mess for 2 years but in year 3 things were bearable and now life is good again.
You will enjoy life again; it just takes time.
I hope this brings you some reassurance
Cheryl
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