Hi guys, im brand new here. Im finding the grief of losing my partner to suicide excruciating. Although i have amazing people around me, i feel the need to connect to people in similar circumstances. Its almost a month passed already. Although i feel like every day full of sadness goes painfully slowly, i can hardly believe how quick a month has almost gone. Is there anyone in a similar situation who would like to connect with me? Thankyou xxx
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Hello @VickyJenks ,
I can see that you’re new to the community. I hope you find it to be a support to you, but I am so sorry for the loss of your partner that brings you here.
You say you are feeling the days are full of sadness and it would help to connect with others. I wanted to share some sources of support that might help you right now.
- Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide offer support to people over 18 who have been affected by suicide. They have a supportline on 0300 111 5065 and run support groups nationally.
- Support after Suicide has a list of local and national support.
You might also want to explore our Online Bereavement Support, where you find our Grief Guide self-help platform, our Grief Coach text support service, and how to access our Online Bereavement Counselling.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
Hi so sorry for your loss I know how hard it is for you at this very raw time. I lost my son to suicide and it was so very hard. I cried most days and felt really angry at first. And with him. Then my mother in law said something that stuck.She said “it was his own will to do what he did”. I thought what she said gave me acceptance and peace and to not judge him in his decision to do what he did. I hope these words give you some insight of why some people do what they do. Not everyone knows how anyone is really feeling all the time. Regards to you and your family.
I feel your pain and sorry for your loss xx beautiful picture I lost my fiancé suddenly July 2023 it never gets easy you just have to bring the grief along with you people tell me to move on etc yes I met for coffee etc and put on a brave face but on my own I crumble not a day goes by I wish he was still here and cry every waking moment every day feels like it was yesterday the trauma heart ache not being able to say good bye etc because of his jealous tainted family I wasn’t allowed any of his things so so sad I hope this group can help you in your time of grieving counselling for me was no good and all the meds sonia make me sleep I’ve dealt with this alone as don’t like to burden people with my grief xx
Everybabes- I totally understand. I have ex family members that are so very bitter with me because I left my husband when he became ill with diabetes and was due to loose a limb but in my opinion because he was violent towards me why shouldn’t I have left- he didn’t look after himself and this was not my fault but they blame me for his death- why- 10 years on and they are still sprouting on - but I am what I am and loved a man I met and I should have fell in love with him much earlier who died too soon (in December 24) as regards to my son who died 3 years ago to the day and took his own life it was his decision and we can’t help that- it wasn’t anything we did it was their mind set and you have to try and make it easier to accept their decision- I hope my words helped a little - you have to be strong- keep busy and smile - memories don’t go away xxxx
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Thank you and you are so right I couldn’t prevent it happening he drank when I left to come back to look after my eldest as she was poorly etc and if he didn’t go that way he was going to go over a bridge I didn’t want to be near myself when he passed and everyday hurts without him but he would want me to live my life the best way I can don’t think I’ll ever meet anyone else as thought he would be the one and I’m drained but I have my 2 grown daughter from a previous relationship and my cats 
xx