Loss and loneliness

[Nifster]

I was my mum’s carer 24/7 since 19 march 2020. I had always cared for her, though cancer and poor mental health. On 14/4/26 she died, in A and E from a hemorrhagic stroke, we were sat watching TV when it happened and I couldn’t save her. I am living the trauma of watching her die every day.

I am so sad and lonely, I gave my life to look after her and now I have to start living.

I went to a bereavement group today and no one turned up. I sat in a cold room on my own. That was even worse than the empty house.

[Brandon1]

Hi Nifster, I am so sorry you have had to go through so much pain. Looking after your mother was a lovely thing to do. I really feel for you going to that bereavement group. Looking for some comfort and not receiving anything. I hope you have family around you give you support. It’s important now to look after yourself. I’m sure you will find some comfort here as there are many people in your situation. If you look around you’ll see posts similar to yours. I was chatting to a man only yesterday who had been looking after his mother for many years and was distraught after her death.
I’m here because of my wife who died on Christmas day after two years of cancer treatments. It’s not the same but we are all suffering the loss of someone dear to us.
I hope you find some solace here
Wishing you all the best
Tom