Still struggling with the loss of my mum. We was very close that close she lived over the road from me. Im so depressed with it ive had to go on the sick fron work. Been off now 3 months and im not getting any better. I feel im getting worse. Feel so alone.
Hi @Deb1012 , I feel your pain.
I’m in the same horrible boat having lost my mum nearly 5 months ago. I’ve no words of wisdom as I can’t cope with the pain myself but I am here if you want to message & I hear you. Christmas makes it all worse.
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Doesnt matter how old we are we alwaya need our mum domt we?.. im.not coping well. Feel like im drowning. Depression is awful i fimd im sitting just looking at the tv but cant hear it. Feeling of emptiness all the time. Feel so alone even though my two son’s are here most of the time but i think the elder one thinks i should be ok now… Thank you for answering my message and i would love to talk but truthfully i woildnt know what to say as my talking to people as gone i don’t communicate well sinc e mum paased, whereas before i would talk to anyone, mum use to say gosh Deborah you would talk a glass eye to sleep you talk that much and now it’s gone i cant do it anymore.
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How long ago was you loss @Deb1012 ?
Yes I know what you mean about not wanting to talk. I too have retreated from the world. All I want is my mum.
Your boys have you & so they probably don’t realise how devastated you are. Also when you function even on a basic level people assume you’re ok, even those closest to us who know what the loss means to us.
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Grieving stages include depression, It is stage 4, not sure how long it lasts but you know why I am here for to tell you about stage 5 Acceptance, it takes time to reach here and even after reaching here it is not perfect but you do better, and look after yourself and family, something your mom would want. You know start feeling your mom around may be in a squirrel or in the air in the evening, plants or know the presence when good things happen
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Hi Deb im so sorry for your loss.I lost my mum nearly 4 year’s ago.The pain you feel when you first lose them is emotionally and physically painful.The day after my mum died.The world felt wrong everyone was just getting on with life whilst i was broken.I went through so many emotions at the beginning and still do.I cried buckets of tears,i was so angry at the world.I just wanted the world to stop because my world had stopped.I find it hard when people talk about their mums because it hurts so much that i dont have one.Ive suffered with yearly depression since i lost my mum,this year it lasted 6 months,only just coming through it.I know how tough this time of year can be too.
Sending you a big hug,take care x
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I’m so sorry for your loss, my mum passed away 8 weeks ago, I’m just wandering round the house trying to find something to do to keep my mind occupied, all my kids and partners, grandkids will be coming later this evening, as it’s the 1st Xmas without mum. She’d have been sat in my living room now asking if there was anything she could help with as I got the house ready for the kids to turn up, then we’d sit and have a natter with a coffee, watch a bit of telly, and had a baileys later on once the kids arrived, the house is so quiet without her, even though she had her own house, she was at mine most days as we lost my dad not long ago. Xmas this year feels very different, almost forced, I’ll be glad when it’s all done this year
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The day mum paased a Robin sat on my fence it came a few times singing it’s little head off till i went out to it, the Robin would look and me and fly off. I always said bet its a sign from mum. I remember a couple of week’s before mum passed the Robin came and i knew then that wasnt a good sign, i thought they was letting me know its time for mum to go and be with my dad amd brother.
I’ve decided to sell my house and move as there are too many memories here of both my parents and I feel like I’m unable to move on and I’m stuck in eternal grief, I looked out of my window yesterday whilst packing, and 2 robins were sat on my bird table, I went out to feed them, they didn’t fly away just waited. I fully believe it was my parents letting me know I’m doing the right thing
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