Well done you, writing down your problems and feelings means your aware of them. You won’t fix them all overnight, but you now know which ones you can cope with and thats a start, always remember its about small steps, you can’t fix everything at once.
I know thank you for replying I think maybe by just speaking to people who have been through the same thing will him as I hope one day I’m in a position to help others. It doesn’t matter how many people you speak to unless they have been through it there is not much people can say and I’m glad I’m not alone in the gut wrenching feeling of loneliness as I read other’s comments and we are all the same in how we feel x
I nursed my wife on my own for four years, we had so many fantastic exotic and terrific holidays. But the cancer spread to her bones and then she took to her wheelchair and finally to bed. Everyone kept saying nice things but never visited, they all said i looked fine. But they just couldn’t see or feel my pain. I didn’t want to burden my children with how i felt and they never asked. They had families to go home to. They had someone to hold and hug 
so why involve them into my hurt. I like to think that i have come through it but i still cry at tender TV moments or when i see couples together, small steps is the answer, speaking to people and getting back into socialising are my main aims now.
I’m really sorry you ever had to go through that. And yes I know about the no one else sees your pain they just say you’re being strong. Mine was very sudden he had a cardiac arrest after developing an infection so overnight I lost him. He was 36 
x
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We all have different stories of how we have lost our husbands / wives/ partners, thier illnesses and causes of them passing. But the one thing we all have in common is this grieving process and the effects it has on our mind and body.
In a strange way all the postings give me some comfort in knowing I am not alone and are very supportive.
I wish everyone one all the best.
Good day all,I must say I am encouraged by this group as we are all going through the same trauma,my empathy to those who were cared for by their partners I can only imagine how difficult that must be.Please give yourselves time as no 2 days are the same.We are here for each other and I am sure our postings will comfort us ,take care and be kind to yourselves.
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