Loss of a parent

Good morning all
I think its time I reached out for help, my dad passed June 23 in a hospice from Cancer.
He was 80 I am 41 and always thought as we get older, the pains easier to deal with, I think I may well have cried every day since he passed and it doesn’t seem to be improving.
Does it get any easier


Hello @Dave11,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and reaching out for help.

I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

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No it doesn’t seem to Dave , I am 60 , list my mum 81 in 2020 … I think people deal with the loss when they have people to confide in … family members , things to enable you to still live life is the distraction of the loss but when that’s not there which is where I am at I just become so overwhelmed and feel like I’m at the beginning again . No matter where we are with our unique circumstances we all feel the same when it’s loss


Hi Dave11
Sorry for the loss of your dad, its hard to except isnt it ? My mum past 7 weeks ago from cancer, she had been ill for a long while but the cancer had only been diagnosed 3 months before she died, it was so quick. I cry everyday at some point, my heart broke in those few seconds at the end as i held her hand and watched her take her last breath, life will never be the same because my mum is no longer in it. I expect to feel this grief forever now, i think i will have days where my memories may be few but i will also have days where il think of mum all day and i think this is a good thing. Im trying to move along at a slow pace, taking time if i need it, little steps. I hope you can find the strength to be strong, your dad would be so proud of you for making a life for yourself. My mum left me a note and on it she wrote… i know you will be hurting but i want you to live your life to the full… i intend to make her proud and do just that, she was amazing and i will always miss her, love you mum❤️