I have lost both parents, dad in January and Mum in April, both had full lives , dad was frail and mum had alzheimer’s, we didn’t make it in time for dad, we were with mum for 5 days on end of life. I do understand we couldn’t do anymore but its killing me, I do talk to family, and have really good close who are trying to support me, but it isn’t working?
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Hello @Leecopley,
I’m Alex, and I just wanted to reach out and say how truly sorry I am that you’re going through so much. Experiencing multiple losses can feel incredibly heavy, and it’s completely understandable if you’re finding it hard to cope right now. Please know that you’re not alone in feeling this way.
Many people in our community have faced more than one bereavement, and while every experience is unique, there can be comfort in hearing from others who understand the exhaustion that can come with grieving more than one person. You might find it helpful to read through some of their posts here.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support to you. In the meantime, you might find these Sue Ryder resources helpful to read.
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Our Losing a parent page talks through some of the emotions you may be experiencing
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through
This community is here for you - whether you want to talk, ask questions, or simply be heard. You are not alone.
Take good care 
Alex
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I am so sorry to hear that you have lost both parents in such a short space of time. You have not had time to process the lose of 1 parent. The early days are full of shock. I was in shock, cried alot and then became numb. Look after your basic needs - eat and sleep. Be gentle on yourself and do whatever feels right for you.
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Thank you, I know deep down it will get to be a new normal, I do have support around me, but i need to let go of the emotions and vent. Thank you
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