My dad passed away on the 12 December 2025, after a fall at home.
My mum and brother came home from shopping to find my dad laid at the bottom of the attic stairs he was taken by ambulance to the hospital on the 8th December.
On the 12 December at 6am he passed away he was 88.
The injurys he sustained during the fall was too much for his body to handle. Losing him so quickly was a shock and I am struggling to come to terms with the fact that hes gone.
What made things even harder was my Dad had prepaid a cremation which was to be unattended and his ashes were to be scattered in the crematoriums memory garden. I have found this difficult to come to terms with but at the same time I respected my dads wishes.
The grief I am feeling is coming in waves, it is so overwhelming at times I cannot function. I am trying to get help so I dont let the grief consume me.
Thank you for bravely reaching out. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. You are not alone. I’m not sure if you’ve seen our Losing a parent category. But there you can connect with other members who are living with grief after losing a parent.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support to you. In the meantime, you might find these Sue Ryder resources helpful to read.
Our Losing a parent page talks through some of the emotions you may be experiencing
Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
I am so sorry to hear this. I too lost my dad who was 81 after a routine hospital procedure went wrong and he passed away very suddenly. We only thought he’d be away for an hour then home! Although both our dads were elderly and you know it will happen at some point, nothing prepares you for it, especially when it is so sudden and unexpected. My dad passed away on 29 Dec and funeral not till 26 Jan so we are in weird limbo just now. The waves of grief are hard to handle, they just come out of nowhere and knocks you for six. I hope you have people around you can talk to. I watched a YT video Edgar Kaye the first year after death and I found it quite comforting. Anyway I just wanted to let you know you are not alone x
