Just lost my Dad last week after a long battle with dementia. Its his funeral next week and I know I will breakdown and im scared of showing myself up and im not sure if i can manage to go
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Hi @INDIARAE , I am so sorry for the loss of your dad, and with it being so recent I can only imagine the pain that you’re feeling right now. When my dad died 2 years ago I was asked to speak at the funeral, and can remember having feelings that I did not want to go. Whatever you decide to do is okay, and it is your choice - but please don’t be scared of breaking down, it is a completely normal reaction and shows how much you love him. Whatever you choose to do, or not do, will be the right decision for you - but please do not let fear of what other people might think of how you react be a deciding factor. Sending love 
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@INDIARAE My Dad died in March & my main concern was having a massive panic attack but do you know what it turned out fine. I sobbed throughout but so did many others, a funeral is the outlet for releasing those inner suppressed emotions. Lots of other people were the same & no one cared. Please go because you’ll spend the rest of your life regretting it otherwise. Sending you much love. X
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@INDIARAE my dad passed away in December 2022, I managed his funeral okay (I read a poem as well) I was almost solely focused on getting my mum through it. My sister cried almost solidly through my dads.
My mum died 5 weeks later, I did her reading but at the end of the service I had to be practically carried out by my brother, I was utterly distraught.
Both reactions were perfectly acceptable. Grief comes out in different ways.
Sending you much love and strength x
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