I lost my last sibling in 2019 then my mum during lockdown then two cousins one during lockdown and the other in 2021 and then my dad in dec 2021 and my dads sister this august. When people say you must be getting over it by now, I struggle to see why. I miss all of them. I have 4 kids of my own that keep me going but losing my whole family is a struggle to deal with. I also had a brother died in 1982 and a sister who died in 2006. Once we were a family of 6 and now it’s just me left. I’m 58 and all my siblings died young. As I said, it’s a struggle coping and especially at this time of year. I have been advised to get some form of counceling so thought I would try this.
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Hi @Silverally you have suffered so much loss, no wonder you are struggling with grief. Don’t let anyone tell you about ‘getting over’ these devastating losses. You can’t do that, but you can learn how to manage the grief. Have a look at the many posts on this forum, they’ll hopefully help you to feel less isolated and alone. I regularly check in since the death of my Mum in January. In the past decade I’ve lost my husband, father, a good friend and now my Mum. Grief can be brutal and difficult. Each loss is different and it takes time to process and adapt. All we can do is keep moving forward, trying our best to honour the love and memories. Best wishes xx
Yeah that’s what I’m trying to do. It’s just trying to move on without them that’s so difficult. Christmas is a very bad time of year so just trying to get through this period then see what next year brings. Thanks for replying though.X
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