I am 23 years old and i suddenly lost my dad at the start of September. It was a complete shock and after a post mortem, it was discovered to be Pulmonary Thrombo Embolism which was caused by DVT.
He showed no symptoms of this and when we went to the doctors the week before with slight chest pain, they said it was acid reflux. One week later, and he dies.
I feel numb about the whole situation and I feel guilty that i don’t feel more sad.
Due to the job I am in, I have a very dark sense of humor so that has helped me cope but it’s making me wonder if that genuinely is my way of coping, or if it just a barrier to hide how i actually feel.
MG0305- grief is unique to all of us. Numb is the most common experience. We are all numb and robotic, just going through the motions of life. Yes, it is a way of coping. I’ve been numb for almost 9 weeks and the fog doesn’t seem to be lifting any time soon.
There is no reason to feel guilty for not being sadder than you are. It is your way and the only way that matters. I’m not crying, haven’t cried but once since my husband’s funeral. We are doing what we can to survive this horror.
I’m sorry for your loss. I’ve lost my mum 7 weeks ago and I feel very numb myself. I’ve cried a few times but mostly numb. I’ve been feeling that perhaps it’s a coping mechanism as I know this is something a lot of people feel when faced with grief.
So sorry about the loss of your dad.
We all cope differently so dont feel guilty about how you grieve.
With him passing so suddenly its alot for you to handle and you will grieve on your own way and in your own time xx