Lost my husband very suddenly, he passed peacefully in his sleep but I was the one to find him. Very traumatic experience especially due to all the protocol associated with sudden death at home. I’ve had friends and family staying over but there’s got to come a point where I have to cope with this alone at home. I’m not frightened just apprehensive. At the minute GP has put me on a very low dose of diazepam only 14 tablets. I’ve only had two over 5 days and I know they work. Does anyone have any advice on how to cope with the first night in your own please? Thanks
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Hi CAH1, so sorry to hear of your husband’s sudden passing. That must have been so traumatic for you and everything will still be raw. It’s not surprising that you’ve had friends and family staying. Unfortunately there comes a time when we must face bedtime alone and spend the night alone. At first even though I have a dog I left the landing light on and the bedroom door open. I then bought a plug in night light which casts a soothing glow in the room, and I’m not ashamed to say I still use it over 2 years later. Try to relax as much as possible during the evening and at bedtime you could perhaps listen to some soothing music or a podcast. Hope this helps a little.
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Thank you for your kind advice. I’ll bear those ideas in mind, I’m sure they will help. Like the idea of the night light and podcast, like a bit of company I suppose. I have been so blessed with the support but people have their own lives to deal with. Thank you again, take care
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My husband collapsed outside our home 31/10/25 and subsequently died in hospital 01/11/25. Tonight is my first night home alone with our dog. Family and friends are nearby, but this is so hard. Thinking of us all tonight
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Its 8 weeks since my husband died suddenly.
I had family stay which was a blessing as like you, I felt apprehensive spending nights on my own - my husband worked shifts so I was used to him not being here, but it’s different now. I suffered with my anxiety, especially at night time. I have 2 children as well. I’ve got a new routine of we all head up to bed at the same time, I pop my TV on or have an audio book on low. Just so it’s not ‘quiet’. Made my bed cosy. Landing light left on. Do whatever you need to make you comfortable and relaxed. Xx
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Hi, my husband died suddenly on 29/10/25. I have an electric throw I bought for comfort and I make sure I do stuff during the day so I’m exhausted. I’m on my own tonight too. I have 2 cats. I’m not sure when I’ll get to sleep. Take care xx
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Thanks to all the replies and support. I love the line ‘Thinking of us all tonight’…..
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So sorry for all of us getting used to being on our own. My husband died 3 weeks ago from cancer, he was in hospital for almost 8 weeks, so I was used to being on my own. But now it’s so different, at least I could see and touch him in hospital, and I know that I should be happy he’s not suffering anymore, but the pain of his loss is unbearable. We hardly spent any time apart over the years. I still haven’t figured it out yet, but I try to read and occupy my mind in the evenings so that I’m tired. And my little cat is good company too… good luck to everyone here, on this journey that we don’t want to be on
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