Hi my name is Clare & this is on behalf of my mother Rosalind. My mum lost her husband (my dad) of almost 59years of marriage & over 60years being together in December 2024. It was a shock even though his health wasnt great we never expected to lose him.
My mum is finding it very difficult & can not stand being alone. Shee q lost soul. Shes active & not one to sit round doing puzzles etc. My self & 2 sisters are there for her daily as she cant bare or face being alone. While this is ok it is also taking a massive strain our lives.
My dad managed finances so i have now taken over that.
We all work full time & varied shifts so time for ourselves are hard to have as we have immense guilt when we leave her 
I would just like to know if anyone is going through a similar situation or have been through a similar situation just so i don’t feel so alone. Many thanks 
I lost my beloved husband on 23rd November 2024 to cancer, after 22 years im now alone, after losing my soul mate.
I understand what your mum is going through.
I lost my husband of 30 years last October, so I can understand to some extent how your mum is feeling. For you, I can see how hard it is to know how best to help your mum as you are also grieving, I have 2 adult full time working children too, and it’s difficult being the parent and also seeing your children in pain. I know you don’t know what to do because neither do my children. I think do as much as you can to support, but I know I also like to be alone with my own thoughts of my husband sometimes. It’s nice to have the company but also space. She may feel differently to that, of course. For me it’s about them knowing when to just leave me alone as much as being there when I need them