loss of husband

Losing a partner
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hi im not coping some days are better than others other days i feel so low and on a self destrut button i hate coming home to a empty house i have a friend who is a lot of comfort but i dont want to impose on her too much has i spend time in her house but when i dont see her or hear from her i miss the company my children live some distance away from me i miss my husband so much that i feel i want to be with him i suffer with anxiety and depression which doesnt help i also wanted a row with my mother has we have had recently does this make me a bad person

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Hi @Sandypaws022,

I’m so sorry to hear about your husband. It sounds as though things are very tough for you. You’re not alone.

It sounds like you’re looking for support and I’m glad that you’ve been able to share how you’re feeling with us. It is very normal for people who are grieving to feel a bit lost and not know where to start.

We know that a lot of people experience suicidal thoughts when they are grieving, and it is often about wanting the person who has died back or life to go back to how we know it. We have a video about it here which you might find helpful:

There is lots of other support out there, and I would really encourage you to reach out and speak to someone about how you are feeling.

  • If these thoughts of suicide become overwhelming, please call 999 or contact your GP for an emergency appointment immediately.

  • You can call 111 and choose the mental health option to speak to a trained mental health professional (England, Scotland and Wales only)

  • Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence. You can call them on 116 123.

  • Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text SHOUT to 85258 and talk to them about anything.

  • You can find your local NHS urgent mental health helpline here.

You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.

You deserve care and support so please, @Sandypaws022, get in touch with one of these services.

Take care,
Seaneen