How do you carry on ??
Slowly, in your own time.
Step by step.
Day by day.
Cry when you need to.
Lock the door and sit in silence when you need to.
Talk whenever you need to talk.
Do what you can when you feel up to it.
Accept help from those who offer it genuinely.
Most of all though, treat yourself with the kindness and compassion you would give to others.
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I lost my husband 4 months ago. I asked the same question and I still do … One day at a time…this is my first post. I joined this group in the early hours today because I was having another bad night. We are not alone and there is some comfort in that. I was with my husband for 39 years and 4 months is just a fraction of that time so it really does have to be one day at a time…
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Hi Jae So sorry for your loss. Nobody knows what we feel. My wife passed away two month’s ago and its very difficult. My wife said to me that i along with the children NEED to get on with our lives but its difficult. Just remember that your husband would not want you to suffer. The thing that keeps me going is the thought that my wife wanted us to celebrate her life . So day by day hopefully you may struggle less and less. A big hug to you.
Hello, thank you for your message. It really does help, as I’m sure you know. I’m trying so hard to find whatever my new normal is and it feels like I’ll never be happy again, or sing or truly smile. Only someone who has experienced the loss of their soulmate can understand the pain and the void that they leave behind.
Hi i know exactly about not feeling normal, if ever again. And however much othees sympathise and relate losses it can & will never be the same as losing a lifetime partner. Thanks for you response