Hi I’m currently struggling to cope with the death of my father in law 5 months ago which was expected and last Sunday I lost my mother in law which was quite suddenly. My wife I’d blaming and angry at my son in law for killing her, mum as at Christmas we had all the family around for the epiphany, He had a bad cold and still came but I was feeling under the weather too. But it’s being directed towards him. This resulted in my mother in law having to go into hospital for a month with pneumonia and flu. But was discharged as fit to leave by the Dr’s with measures put in place oxygen and hospital bed etc. she has breathing problems prior to becoming ill. My brother in law has bipolar, who seems to be coping well on the outside but is very reluctant to share how he feels. My other brother in law doesn’t show any interest on how everyone feels this is probably down to his with who seems to be covertly controlling him. So I’m having to support my wife with her grief and my wife and I having to support my brother in law. But I’m not getting much support as I feel like I’m going to tip them over the edge. If I ask for help. I just feel exhausted. (Sorry if this doesn’t make sense I’m dyslexic and struggle to write)
Hello @Mike68,
Your post made perfect sense, don’t worry. Thank you for bravely reaching out. I’m so sorry for the loss of your parents in-law. It sounds like you’re doing your best to be strong for everyone else without much support yourself. You deserve care and support, too.
I’m sure someone will be along to share their thoughts, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.
-
Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
-
Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
-
Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
-
Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
Take good care - you are not alone.
Seaneen