I lost my mom March 8th 2022. It’s approaching 2 years and I am still full of grief. She was very healthy and in excellent shape, but she ended up passing from COVID. I think about her everyday. Sometimes I smile, but most times I cry. Sometimes, even after 2 years, I still don’t believe it actually happened. I really never faced anything like this. I have always been a happy and easy going person. I never really knew what deep depression and anxiety was. Now I do. It sucks! Ever since her passing Ive been in a downward spiral. My wife has been excellent with supporting me. But I let the depression take over and I make stupid decisions which is not helping our relationship. I have been drinking too much and not showing her the attention she deserves. I am working on it. I have always been against therapy, but am starting it soon. I just don’t think it will work. I will keep an open mind though. I really hope it helps. This is by far the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with. Even 2 years later.
Hello @buckeyefan5425 ,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling anxious, depressed and struggling to manage your grief. I’m so sorry to hear about your mom. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
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Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
You might also want to have a read of this Sue Ryder Article which you may find helpful Losing a parent - coping with the death of a parent | Sue Ryder
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
I am so sorry to read about your pain. Thank you for posting. My Dad passed on 2nd December 2022. The heartache, tears and simply a awful feeling of being alone (even though surrounded by family) is at times overwhelming. Found getting out more… going to places took Daddy helps. His favorite walk, football and even shopping in same shops as we did. Just a thought. Your not alone. Keep safe.
My mum died 23rd nov 22 , at first i was just on autopilot doing all the neccesssry things, mum lived next door to me which made it much harder, and even now after 16 months i still feel overwhelmed sometimes. You have to take care of yourself and allow yourself time to grieve and get some support from wherever you need. I havd had councelling and it did help. Good luck and take care
My mum died February 2022 (my dad died in 2016.) Like others have said here I still get overwhelmed at times by the loss of my parents and I think that’s ok. I’ve put myself under pressure before to feel a certain way by a certain point in time with my grief, and it didn’t help. Take care all.
Sorry to read of your loss I lost my mum November 24th 2016. A day doesn’t go by when I don’t think of my mum. I’ve learned that I am no longer the person I was and I’ve realised you have good and bad days with grief. Lately I’ve had lots of bad days grief likes to hurt cuts like a knife it enjoys torturing you
One thing I’ve found is it’s best to be kind to yourself look after yourself I know it’s what my mum would want me to do. She wouldn’t want me to feel misery. She’d want me to live my life as hard as it is when your going through it I have had to tell myself that I can do this.