It will be two years since I lost my mum suddenly and unexpectedly in May 2024. I sold the house which was also my childhood home in November 2025. I still can’t believe she has gone although I focus on positive memories and what she would advise in a given situation. I am considering going back to have a look at the house again later this year but want to be sure of how I will feel about seeing any changes from outside. I dreamt about seeing it again and seeing new people in there and being aware of a baby there. I then decided in the dream to let these people live their lives. I still find myself in my mum’s company in dreams occasionally. In another dream, I told my grandmother who died in 1992 that I was missing my mum and she replied that it was understandable. It was interesting that my grandmother was comforting me in a dream when she died 32 years before my mum. I still also ruminate about whether her death could have been prevented although she said she wanted to ‘go pop’ one day. She died of a massive heart attack despite no known heart condition.
My mum died very suddenly in 2023 - literally gone in a few seconds. I did go look at the house last year. The person living there spotted me hanging around and came out to see what I wanted. I was able to look inside at the front door. My mum was a heavy smoker and when she opened the front door, you’d get hit by the smell of smoke. But this time it just smelled like clean washing. I’m not sure I should have gone. It was nice that someone was happily living there though.
That must have been extremely hard for you selling your childhood home, so many memories are made there. It’s so incredibly difficult but keep in your heart how much you loved your Mam and how much she loved you.
Thank you. I will keep thinking of that.
Thank you. It must be reassuring that someone is now enjoying the house.