My mum passed away nearly 2 years ago. I still struggle with the loss of her as we were very close and she was always there whenever I needed her. The thing I’m finding hardest is when my husband gets to see his mum as it is so hard and I feel a bit jealous that he still has his mum. I hate feeling this way as I know I shouldn’t really but I cant seem to get out of this feeling. I have told my husband how I feel as we are very honest about our feelings and he says he understands but it worries me that it will push us apart.
Hi Mel,
I know what you mean. My mum died late July this year & I’m really struggling to carry on without her. She was my anchor & meant everything to me.
I see people all around who don’t appreciate their parents & who take them for granted or act like they are a pain & it infuriates me & then makes me so so sad.
I think if you explain again to your husband that you’re so happy for him to have his mum but that the pain of your loss is still so unbearable that it can make you become distant at times he will understand when that happens.
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Thanks for your suggestion I will try telling him that 
It’s so hard losing someone so important especially our mums. I know exactly what u mean I see it aswell with people not being grateful for having their parents etc and it is so irritating as they obviously don’t realise just how important their parents etc are and how hard it is once they pass away.
I can relate to how difficult it is to live without your mum, as I feel exactly the same. Some days are much harder than others even after nearly 2 years.
I am so sorry,I lost Mum in August quite suddenly and I feel like no one really understands!
When someone asks whats wrong it makes me so angry-its not their fault but I stop feeling miserable about losing her.
Time is not helping so far and neither is Christmas.
Sending love
Typo-cant stop feeling miserable!
I’m so sorry for your loss it’s still not been very long for you then so the feelings will still be so strong and fresh 
It is very hard as I don’t think anyone truly understands unless they have lost their mum as the pain etc it causes is indescribable really. The special occasions in the year are probably the hardest times aswell.
Luckily these sort of forums are here as most people on here can relate to how we are feeling so makes it easier to not feel angry at others as they are in similar situations.
If u need someone to talk to message me any time.
I personally feel better than I did a year or so ago but I still have periods of time where I struggle and some situations make me think of my mum a lot more so they are harder aswell. Some days I feel bad as I feel like life shouldn’t be going on without my mum but other days she is in my thoughts but I remember how she told us that when she dies that we need to get on with our life’s and not just mope about as she will haunt us otherwise that memory aways makes me smile at least
Hugs to you
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Good evening Mel,
My was killed last year I’m still coming to terms with it. With it being this time of year it’s hard. I have had good support from this site. If you need a chat I’m sure someone will have a chat with you