Hi everyone I’m trying to cope with the loss of my 9 month old niece . Even though she was my neice I felt like a mother to her as her mother wasn’t present very often . I was always there at her surgery’s and her appointments . I can’t get the image of her out of my head when I close my eyes I’m struggling to sleep as all I see is her when she was passed . If any one knows any coping mechanisms feel free to tell me as I’m really not coping well at all
Hello @A.Gittens,
I can see that you’re new to the community. I hope you find it to be a support to you, but I am so sorry for the loss of your niece that brings you here.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you might find these organisations helpful.
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Child Bereavement UK support families with the loss of a child. They also support bereaved children. You can call their helpline on 0800 02 888 40.
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The Compassionate Friends support families who have lost a child of any age. They have a grief companion scheme where you can get 1-1 support from another bereaved parent. You can call them on 0345 123 2304.
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Tommy’s support anyone with the loss of a baby. They have a helpline on 0800 0147 800 or email midwife@tommys.org. They also have a baby loss support Facebook group.
Sue Ryder also has some resources which can help you cope with grief.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
It might also be a good idea to make an appointment with your GP. It sounds like these images of your niece are really upsetting and they may be able to offer further support. You have experienced a devastating loss, so please do be gentle with yourself.
Take care and keep reaching out,
Seaneen
So sorry about your niece. I lost my 41year old daughter in November. I found her 6 hours after she had died of a spontaneous intracranial haemorrhage. I still have the image of my beautiful Lauren when I found her. It does change with time, the colours are not as vivid and the emotions are not quite as raw. The only advise I can give which worked for me but is different for everyone is go with the grief, cry, scream, wail, shout whatever you need to do. Accept the pain it is a reflection of your love.
Keep talking to people on here.
Hi thank you for replying it gives me abit of relief reading this as it isn’t getting any better atm but hopefully like you’ve said soon it will