Hi, my dad passed away 5 weeks ago his funeral was last week, I’m struggling so much with anxiety with it all, had a constant headache with the stress which in turn is making me stressed more. Nothing can prepare you for losing someone you love 
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VIcky - my heart breaks for you. When my father died, I thought I would too. I have never felt such pain. I was inconsolable and on the sofa weeping for weeks.
Truly nothing worse than losing your foundation, the unconditional love of a father. It has been 14 years and I still mourn. If I think about it too long, I cry. So, I cut off the thoughts and just say out loud “Daddy, I love you. Daddy I miss you.” until I feel better.
I’ve got nothing else, except to add that you will get better. You will be different emotionally in a year. It is just a long, lonely road to get there.
Much love.
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Hi, I joined this group only today so not sure of what I am doing or really saying, My dad passed away in Sept after a very short illness. You are right that nothing can prepare you for losing someone. We just have to keep going. I know it might sound daft but I tell my dad I love and miss him every day and in a strange way it makes me feel a little better that he knows we will never forget him. At the end of the day I think you try to cope how you can and what works for you is best. I think also that sometimes people expect you to get back to normal too quickly
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@Shelby123 no it doesn’t sound daft at all I talk to my dad every day saying the same, my dad knew how much we all loved him as did we know how much he loved us. Sorry to hear about your dad too my dad passed away in September too after a short illness it’s all the physical symptoms with the anxiety and grief I’m struggling with too are you? 
Hi, Yes. I feel like I have aged in the last 2 months. Physically and mentally. Its just how you can go from being not ok but better and then bang something brings you down again
@Shelby123 that is bizarre you saying that because I don’t like saying I feel ‘ok’ sort of feel guilty saying it but yes better than normal. My dad was 90 but a very fit 90 and had a better memory than me 
the hospital he was in was a joke and I hold so much bitterness towards them. How old was your dad?
You never think it’s going happen. you never think about it happening. And when it does happen. Your not prepared for this. There is no life manual telling you the do’s and the don’ts. Your thrown into the deep end of grief. And grief hurts and grief is confusing and unrelenting. But grief eases and life continues. And we carry on the best we can. For them. Take Care of yourself
Hi, Dad turned 76 in June. I am the same way towards the hospital and doctors that supposedly treated him. The doctors keep telling him he was constipated and offered no help at all and the hospital was even worse. From July onwards he was in hospital 3 times. Each time sent home with no diagnosis and no real treatment. He went in for the last time in Sept and in the space of 2 weeks we were told it was stomach cancer and not treatable and then within 6 days he was gone. Makes me so angry
@Shelby123 so young too you need to complain when you feel up to it we are putting a massive complaint in and I will highlight certain staff too. I work for the nhs and treat all patients how I’d want my loved ones treat unfortunately not all staff are the same 
Yes. Just supporting my mum as well at the moment. Once she is more settled she does want to put in a complaint about both the doctors and hospital. It destroys me when I think that if he had been treated better and earlier would he still be here.
@Shelby123 exactly we are left with all the added stress through incompetent people it makes me so angry!! 