My Husband died if pancreatic cancer in February after being diagnosed the week before Christmas.
He didn’t have an easy time and really suffered. I am absolutely broken and can’t believe what’s happened. I feel like part of me died with him. I’m not living just existing and struggling to get through each day since he died. I really hate feeling like this.
Hi and welcome
I’m so sorry for your loss, pancreatic cancer is so cruel, it’s the speed and suffering that is so frightening. I lost my lovely husband 24 weeks ago this evening, to this dreadful disease after only 6 weeks. The suffering he went through will live with me forever, after going to Dr’s and A&E so many times, only for them to send him home with antibiotics and other tablets. Why can’t we do things better when it comes to this disease, they’re making no progress at all.
He had just turned 60, just 12 days previously in hospital and he told them very early on that his wish was to come home to me, which they didn’t fulfill. We didn’t have kids, so now I face life alone without my soulmate.
Those early days of this awful path are tough, just keep talking to him and about him. I have Ray’s photo in front of me and talk to him all the time. Cry and get it all out. I know eating and sleeping were very hard for me, I couldn’t stand the taste of food. And most important don’t think of the future now, just take it hour by hour, focus on doing what you have to do.
Take care and we are all here to help you x
Dear j9
I am so sorry you too have lost your husband, welcome to this group none of us wanted to join.
Like Peg said take it one day at a time. Don’t think of the future just get through the next day, hour or minute.
Eating and sleeping are a big problem for all of us, eat what you can when you can and keep drinking. We just have to do the basics for now to get through the days.
There are a lot of amazing people in this group with great advice. Search here for anything that’s worrying you or just post and people will be along with what has helped them.
All of this is a nightmare we have to live with but things do get easier. Read some of the previous posts, they have given me hope I can do this.
Take care, Helen x
I am so sorry for your loss , like @Helen39 and @Peg2 . Has said you need to take things slowly. And just get through your days . Try to eat, drink and sleep when you can . Just focus on doing 1 thing a day . None of wanted to be on this emotional rollercoaster. Post on here when you are up to it. They are lovely supportive people here .
Hi @J9.1162 I am so sorry for your loss. As the others have already said, this is a very nice community. The people here have all been through similar horrible things in their lives and can understand what you are going through. We are all here seeking support and any of us will be happy to support you if and when you need it. Try to be kind to yourself and take care, Matt x
Hi J9 I’m really sorry to hear about your situation and how fast everything progressed. My wife died on Christmas day but she survived two years with bile duct cancer even though the initial diagnosis was 5 months. That gave her time to come to terms with it. I really hope you find strength and receive all the support you need now.
Wishing you all the best
Tom
So sorry for your loss, your grief is still very early. I’m six months in after my partner’s sudden death. I wish I could say it gets easier soon but grief follows a course which is different for everyone. If you have family or friends lean on them as much as possible. Losing a partner/spouse is very difficult as you were with that person daily. I still cry everyday especially when I have memories triggered by something. Try to look after yourself, take care.