Loss of my husband

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Lost my husband 4 months ago had a cardiac arrest whilst driving, managed to stop the car safety ,
People got him out of the car and started CPR ,
We had an ambulance and Air Ambulance arrived,
I was blue lighted in a police car to hospital,
My husband passed away 2 hours later,
Feels like I’m in a bad nightmare really struggling

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Hello @Susie3021,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your husband, and to hear that you’re struggling so much. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

Alex

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My husband died of a heart attack in June it’s early for you but sometimes I keep thinking l am going to wake up and it’s just been a really bad dream.
Be kind to your self and take small steps xxxx

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Thank you Alex

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jeanine1 Thank you for your kind words ,sorry for your loss Take care

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@Susie3021
So sorry you have the need for this forum but I do hope you will find the support you need here. There are many other members who have lost their partners; my fit and seemingly perfectly healthy husband died last April after playing his weekly football. Went out and never came home. It was sheer hell trying to take it in and believe it was true to begin with.

Have a look at the posts in the losing a partner section and you will find many discussions and hopefully some help on there.
Hugs
Karen xxx

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Thank you Karen F so very sorry for your loss deepest sympathy
I do think this forum helps ,some days its feels like i am in a bad nightmare ,and cannot sleep at night ,
I do have some good friends around ,was a shock the way i lost my husband ,
I have been to his grave today it gives me comfort to talk and play his favourite music to him ,
Take care ,Big hugs to you ,
Everyone is so kind on here
Sue xx

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Thanks @Susie3021
I think many of us find some comfort with going to a place to remember our loved ones, be it a grave or a landmark. My husband is only yards from our house and right by the garden wall of the farmhouse he was born in, exactly where he wanted to be. On his birthday weekend my daughters and I went to the last place I had been out for a day with him on Good Friday last year. A hill called The Cat’s Back, which is part of the Black Mountains. He had to help me up there then, which is why one of the pieces of music in my thread about ‘Music Which Means a Lot’ is a Josh Groban track You Raise Me Up (so I can stand on mountains.)
The irony is, I only heard it for the first time the day before he died and I loved it then. Little did I know that by the next night it would reduce me to tears yet mean so much more.

Sending love
Karen xxx

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Thank you for sharing your experience. This has helped me with my recent loss, after a long marriage partnership. Kay

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@Kay3 I hope you will feel comfortable with us all on this very supportive group and begin to gain strength and a sense of community. We are free to share anything which helps, without judgement and with the knowledge that others here do understand.
Sending you love
Karen xxx

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