I lost my husband last week. We had been together since I was 18. I don’t know how I am going to cope with the loneliness and feel total despair. Can anyone offer any advice please?
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Hi there m so so sorry for your loss, I lost my husband 10 weeks ago and the pain is unbearable, I have been very up & down but today is a bad day, do you have any family or friends ?
Yes I have a daughter who has been an amazing support but she has her own family and grief to deal with too and I’m trying to support her as well. Good friends but at the end of the day at home alone which is hardest
hi so sad to hear about your loss it sucks my husband of 48 years died 15 weeks ago and it is so hard i wish i could tell you great things but we just keep going because thats just what we do i try to keep busy which means walking dogs and cleaning but i find it so hard to talk about davy because its so upsetting but we are here for you as we all know how you are feeling
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Hiya Ally I cant offer much then I am sorry you are here. It’s just over 13 weeks when I lost my husband Gra, l do have family for as much good as they are. I have been told this is my new life and I have to learn to live with it.
They havent a clue !!! The lonilness is so horrendous the pain cuts so deep you feel you cant breathe properly
The best advice I was given was 1 hr 1 day and in the beginning i was taking one minute at a time.
I still cry everyday for the man i so deeply loved, and for tge life and happiness that was once mine. Hugs Jo here if you want to message me anytime . Xxx
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Hello everyone
I’ve had such a bad day. It will be a year next month since i lost my husband of 52 years. I am just not coping and can’t see any point of carrying on without him. I would quite happily end it all but my son’s father/in/law committed suicide so how can I do this to my son again. I’m trying so hard but everything is meaningless without the love of my life
Hello Nala
I am sorry you are feeling this way, I have no easy answers I wish I did ,I am only 20 weeks into this journey and its so hard.
I only know its not our time yet and we must try and move foward grasping at anything we can just to get through each day.
Hugs Jo xxx
Thank you Jo xx
Sorry for your loss , I lost my husband of 40 years 3 months ago and it has been an awful time for me. I know we all grieve very differently but my coping mechanism has been trying to keep myself busy - I went to a flower arranging class last week which I really enjoyed. I am disabled but do chair yoga once a week and we all go for coffee after so I have made new friends (albeit they are mostly 20 years older than me!) I have also gone back to volunteering one afternoon a week in a local museum. I know I’m probably just distracting myself but that, and the love of my family and friends is keeping me going. If I start to feel panicky I always have a book to hand which helps me - especially if I wake up during the night.
Everyone on here is so lovely and helpful, I find it makes me happier as I know I am talking to people who have lost their partner too xx