My husband passed away on 8 December 2024. The funeral will be on 13 January. Today was a very hard day. Went to see him in chapel of rest.
I plan to read a poem at his funeral but not sure how i will cope.
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I’m so sorry to hear about your husband, @MSTS77. I’m giving your thread a gentle bump as it sounds like you could really use some support over the next few days 
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I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my wonderful husband just over a week ago. Saying something at the funeral is a lovely idea, is there someone that can take over if you feel like your not able to at the time, or even stand beside you for support. Sending lots of love x
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Yes my family are very supportive. I’m sure one of them would take over if its too hard.
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Hello, im so sorry for your loss. i lost my husband on 7th November at his funeral i read a tribute to him, i practiced all morning and was in tears but,when the time came i looked at his coffin and felt him with me, it was still difficult but felt he was with me andxwatching over me.
Decide on the day even up to the last minute .
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I had what I wanted to say written down in case someone had to take over.
I also practised a lot, I found saying it a bit louder helped me get through.
On the day I just turned to him in his coffin and spoke directly to him. I got through and I’m so glad I did it.
Just know that if you can’t, if you can even start, it won’t matter one bit to the man you love and who loves you. I’m saying this in the present tense because that love is still alive.
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MSTS77 I am so sorry for your loss.
I went to see my husband at the service rooms and found it very peaceful as he had been cared for so well.
I was dreading his funeral.
My sister in law recorded a poem she wrote which was played on a screen with the words and some relevant pics which worked so well as it can be so emotional to read out live.
We had time to prepare for his funeral as we had known his illness was terminal.
I hope you have lots of support and take some strength in that
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That’s a good solution, to record the reading if your feel you might break down on the day.
We had my darling Luie singing and a video of him performing That’s Life. A terrible, shaky, holiday video but it was so very Luie.
It’s the fella that used to massage my poor acting feet every night, while I stroked his glorious hair that I miss though. Not the entertainer or joker.
Although we had so much laughter and fun in our life together.
So much to miss.
This site and the opportunity to express our feelings and listen to each other really helps though.
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Sending hugs and your in my thoughts fir Monday xx
Wishing you strength for Monday.
It’s another phase of grieving, but also a chance to celebrate how wonderful our time with them was.
Sending hugs 
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Thank you. I know it will be a hard day but I will get through it.
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