Loss of my mother

Hi, I lost my mother October 2022. I cared for her through ovarian cancer and then Alzheimer’s. I feel I lost her many times during the time i cared for her, near the end she didn’t know who i was which broke my heart. My life came to a grinding halt when she passed, I am not the same person and I’m finding it so hard to cope without her, she was my life and I miss her so so much.

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Hello @Liz65,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your mother. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

Hi Liz,
I’m sorry to hear you’re still grieving. It can be a long healing process. I too lost my mum to Alzheimers and cared for to the bitter end. Its an awful awful disease, it robs you of a person over and over again. So I feel for you.
Grief has no time limit I’m afraid, I still miss mum after 18months. Ive learnt a lot through my life, but I was never taught how ro handle grief, I wish I was.

Thank you so much for your reply. The last three years of mums life was so difficult to deal with, I struggled many times and found it hard to get any help. Alzheimer’s is indeed an awful disease, I had no idea what was to come. Mum was not mum anymore and that took a lot out of me, she was angry and said the most hurtful things, I was in tears most days. After she passed my life stopped me dead, I was with her every day and then nothing, it changed me. I gave up my job to care for her and lost all contact with the world. My confidence has gone, I tend to shy away from people and I can’t seem to get my life back on track. I miss her, I love her, I want her back.

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@Liz65 i hear you. You put your life on hold then struggle to integrate back into it. Its hard when you’re grieving too. Try not to be too hard on yourself though, you’re going through a hard time, its going to take a while to get yourself back to being yourself.