I lost my mum on the 25th of February. Im finding it very hard to accept that shes gone, i think its because she was my best friend. If anyone can help i would be very grateful
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Hello @Sassysarah,
I’m so sorry to hear about your mum. You are not alone - sadly, many of our members have lost their mums too and will understand someone of what you’re going through right now.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. You might already be familiar with our other Online Bereavement Support services, but if not, you can find out more about our Online Counselling service, and our Grief Guide self-help tools by visiting the link.
Take care and please do keep posting,
Seaneen
Bless you xxx I lost my mum 2 years ago and I am noticing now I am really struggling. I think I haven’t grieved as I care part time for my dad. Like you, my mum was my best friend too. I miss her terribly. Time will heal, so I have been told, but I am still crying, feel low and just want her back.
I’m in my 50s and often tell myself off for crying. 
I often talk to her too in the hope she will respond back… But she doesn’t.
We think parents will be with us forever - but when we loose one, it seems very weird.
I hope you are doing ok xxxx
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Hi both
I lost my mum, and best friend, on 29th April 2024. I feel at a total loss, even a year after she died.
Totally understand where you are both coming from. I’m hoping it will get easier.
Is there anything you are both doing, to help, and to make it easier?
Lost my mum in October last year … i miss her too 
got her ashes few days ago which me and my brother and sister are sharing. Going to put them in a lovely pot with a beautiful plant in … it was a sad goodbye … i loved her very much … our mums … nobody can replace them can they ? xx
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Hi sorry for your loss xxx it is so hard isn’t it xx I have and still am struggling. I haven’t thought of myself as been sorting my dad out. It’s only now that I am thinking I need help as I think I haven’t grieved properly. Yes i have cried, but I haven’t spoken to anyone - a professional. I have now communicated with help at work and hope the sessions will help. So I’d say talk to someone professional - cry, talk, laugh about yr mum. We can’t bring them back but we can move forward without them. It’s learning to live without them which is hard xx God, I wish I could bring my mum back … But I can’t. I suppose it’s natures way … You are born in you live and you die. Our mum’s had to go through losing their mum and they got through the hurt. We will never forget our wonderful mum’s. Xx we just need to get through the storm xxxx sending you my love, hope and strength X xxx
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They deffo cannot be replaced. I’m so glad you’ve got the ashes and know what you are going to do with them. Mum is in my dad’s hall way. He has said about scattering them in the garden as it was mums favourite place, but he isn’t going to be there forever and I don’t want it to be a place where I cannot get to.
Why is life so bloody tough?!
Alice
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Thanks Sue, I’m so sorry for your loss too.
It is hard, and yeah I hadn’t really thought about mum loosing nan, however they had such a fractious relationship, whereas mum was my rock, my best friend, my go-to, and one of the girls.
Professional help has deffo helped, I think I’m just lonely and have nobody to offload or talk to - this forum has helped so, so much already, and it’s only been 12 hrs. It is so good to hear there are people out here.
My CBT therapist has said about joining local hospice groups, but I’m not the kind of person who trusts or can just talk to somebody about my feelings. The thought or a bereavement walking group just terrifies me - it would probably give me the incentive to take up running, and run for the sodding hills!
It’s good to hear from you, and the others on here - it is a starting point and a good place to find help, and more importantly, not be lonely.
Alice
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Thanks. Yeh in a pot would be better so u can move it around with you when necessaey xx
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I’m super sorry for your loss i hope your okay grief is very hard to live with I’ve been dealing with the same thing its super hard 
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I know it is and im really not coping well at all, as my other family does want to know me either
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Oh dear … so sorry for your loss. Try get out into the sunshine and walk if u can. It really does help i have found xx